The Hardest Part Of Becoming The Person You Prayed To Be

Growth happens in the uncomfortable space between who we were and who we’re becoming—old patterns fall away so new joy, love, and purpose can emerge, Karin Hadadan reflects. Similarly, Rebecca Simon’s Finding God Every Day demonstrates how faith can illuminate the path forward—read below to experience God’s guidance in your transformation.

Whenever we picture the future version of ourselves—the one living with vitality, joy, deep love, and a purpose that fills us—we can feel that their energy is different from where we are now. Because if we were already in that energy, wouldn’t we already be living as that version? Wouldn’t we already have everything we’re trying to call in?

The truth is, to get there, we first have to be fully here. We have to understand why we are in this exact season of our lives—lacking joy, seeking love, chasing purpose. When we pause long enough to reflect, we realize that over the years, we’ve gathered conditioned patterns, protective behaviors, and limiting beliefs. Once, they served us. They kept us safe, shielded our inner child, and helped us avoid certain fears. But eventually, we reach a point where we have to ask: Are they still helping me—or are they holding me back?

That’s when the truth begins to surface: the way we think, act, and believe is no longer aligned with who we’re becoming. These old patterns aren’t bad, but they’re outdated. They are the “software” we must uninstall to make space for the upgrade.

This current you—the sum of every choice, belief, and thought you’ve ever carried—deserves your gratitude. You’ve survived, adapted, and brought yourself this far. But stepping into the next phase of life requires God to gently (and sometimes not so gently) strip away everything that no longer matches the frequency of where you’re going. Imagine a divine workshop, where piece by piece, the baggage you’ve been carrying is removed, leaving you free to walk into the new chapter unburdened.

Maybe you’ve felt it lately—faced with a familiar situation, whether in love, work, or family, and realizing you don’t know how to respond. The old self is still right there—ready to control, to lash out, to seek validation. But now, those reactions feel heavy, awkward, wrong. And yet, you don’t fully know what the new self would do either.

That strange, uncomfortable space between who you were and who you’re becoming? That’s the transformation zone. Your system is rebooting. The hard drive of old traumas and outdated stories is being wiped clean. New space is opening for better thoughts, truer relationships, and deeper alignment to take shape.

So when the old self stops fitting, it’s not because you’re lost. It’s because you’re leveling up. You’re stepping into a higher frequency—and the life that matches it is already on its way.