This obscenity has women furious — and they're naming and shaming

If you’ve noticed an uptick in female rage online over the last week, we have our reasons.

Women have been reeling over the Eric Swalwell scandal, which saw our former collective Dem Crush fall from grace in the span of a mere 11 days. Republicans really could learn a lot about accountability from Democrats, but why would they bother doing anything that makes sense?

And while we were still trying to sort out the disappointment of learning that a supposedly Good Guy Ally is actually the polar opposite, we found out about the “Online Rape Academy,” exposed by a lengthy global CNN investigation.

All of the details revealed about the “Motherless” website are unspeakably horrifying. While women have always been fully aware of the potential dangers of sexual assault as a result of being drugged in public spaces, we never considered the possibility of it happening thanks to a trusted intimate partner. The website received 62 million unique hits in the month of February, and over 82 million in March. While its founder has been arrested, the site was still very much active at the time of this writing.

The site contains multiple subforums where men share videos of themselves assaulting and raping their female partners, who are fully passed out thanks to drinking spiked tea or being drugged some other way. They also share tips on which drugs are better than others, meaning which ones stay in a woman’s system for the shortest amount of time so that they can’t remember any of the rapey parts and therefore can’t report the men they trust most in the world to the police.

These and other horror movie details have created the kind of reaction from women that you’d expect, while too many men are pulling the “Not All Men” defense. And fellas, you need to drop that one like a counterfeit $100 bill.

Women are rightfully enraged by our collective lived experiences. After all, we’ve been watching men get away with sexual crimes since the dawn of recorded history. It’s only now in the digital age that women are finally able to shed the shame so often associated with sexual assault. We have lived with “harmless” catcalls on the street (my first one was at the age of 14 in Manhattan). We know what it’s like to be sexualized by adult men from very young ages (including by our own fathers), to be shamed over our bodies as a male power move, to be assigned our value from men based on our breast sizes, hip widths, belly fat, leg lengths, and ass shapes.

All too many of us know what it’s like when men cross the line into committing crimes against women, ranging from stalking to rape and murder. We have a man found liable of sexual abuse currently squatting in the White House who’s being enabled by the entire Republican Party, including members of his Cabinet who’ve been named along with him in the Epstein Files.

It also doesn’t help that Substack is platforming accused international sex trafficker Andrew Tate, who was given safe harbor in Florida by Donald Trump, who also welcomed Tate’s brother, Tristan, back to America. Andrew is somehow the #1 Bestseller this week, with over 1.1 million subscribers, which just shouldn’t be allowed on the app where the smart kids post. Or ANYWHERE ELSE, because he’s an accused CRIMINAL.

I’m very proud to say that all three of them blocked me on Twitter, because women need to stand up to men who abuse women, not enable them with our silence.

Understandably, women are gathering online to figure out how to channel this rage in the most effective ways. The main conversations are happening on Threads and Instagram, where women have dubbed the movement “MeTwo.” They can simply ask the Threads algorithm to put fellow raging females in their feeds so we can all take over everything as quickly as possible.

Along with the rightfully furious women are the male allies who are standing with us and calling out their fellow men to join them in smashing the patriarchy in the right way. We need much more of this energy, fellas.

Of course, there are the fragile MAGA snowflakes who are triggered and freaking out over women holding men accountable--and therefore keep proving our points for us. We know it’s “not all men,” but it is ALWAYS men, and it’s happened to literally ALL women.

ALL OF US.

If you’re a man reading that, read it again. And again. And really take it in.

Because when I say all of us, I’m telling you that there’s not a woman who’s ever walked this planet who, at the very bare minimum, hasn’t been the target of an inappropriate comment from a man. It’s really not a question of IF a woman you know--from your mom to your sister to your aunts, cousins, friends, girlfriends, and wives--has a story to tell about a Bad Man. The question is WHEN was the first time she can remember something happening to her?

Any follow-up questions? Before you ask them, remember that no woman “asks for it.” Especially not a woman who’s been drugged by her partner. More men need to be taught never to shame the victims of sexual violence, only the perpetrators. And yet, protecting a man’s professional reputation has all too often been the focus, instead of believing the women.

Women have had it, guys. There’s been a very real and perceptible shift in our attitudes. Women are naming and shaming their attackers, going back to their childhoods. Women are done protecting the men who’ve hurt us, and we’re also done staying silent if you start anything with us in public.

Women are going to get louder and louder. I’d advise all men trying the “not all men” thing to think about what all women live with, and then say nothing instead.