Woman Is Told Wearing Her Engagement Ring to Friends' Wedding Would Be 'Creating Drama.' She Can't Believe the Reason Why
A woman was left shocked when her friends asked her not to wear her engagement ring to their wedding, and their reasoning makes very little sense.
On Reddit‘s popular “Am I the A–hole” forum, a newly engaged Redditor revealed that she and her fiancé had been engaged for about three months. He popped the question on their seventh anniversary with a unique ring featuring a “light blue sapphire.”
The woman said that she’s hardly taken the ring off since he popped the question. She was really surprised when their friends “Tilly” and “Peter” told her that she couldn’t wear the symbol of their love to their wedding.
After being accused of “creating drama,” the woman took to the internet for advice.
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In her post, the engaged wedding guest noted that Peter and her partner had been childhood friends and said that the two couples had “hung out plenty of times over the past few years.”
They recently got together for the first time since she and her fiancé had gotten engaged. After showing off her ring, the couple made their strange request.
“When they asked to see the ring, Tilly noted that it was much lighter than the photos we’d shared. Peter agreed, and a little while later after the conversation had turned to something else, Tilly asked if we remembered that the bridesmaids’ dress colour was a very pale blue. My fiancé is a groomsman so knew this, as he is wearing a matching tie,” she wrote.
Continuing, she said, “Peter said that they were hoping that only the wedding party was going to wear that colour, which was included on the invites. He said that having a ring in that shade was ‘no excuse’ to be ‘breaking the rules’. This was said humourously, so my fiancé and I both laughed, and I assured them that I’m most likely wearing something darker and not blue anyway.”
That wasn’t all that reassuring to the couple, who is set to tie the knot in just a few weeks.
She said that the bride-to-be accused her partner of “talking around the issue” and clarified that she “wouldn’t be able to wear my engagement ring at their wedding because it was too close to their shade of blue.”
Apparently, Tilly had already told a family member that they also couldn’t wear a piece of jewelry that had been deemed to close to the shade of blue.
The couples had “a discussion” but were unable to come to a resolution.
“Tilly and Peter were insistent that I would be ‘creating drama’ by wearing it, and if anything, it suggested that I was trying to steal focus away from them and the wedding party,” she wrote, stressing that she “had zero intention of doing that.”
The bride and groom even accused the Redditor and her partner of “taking more attention from them during their wedding timeline.”
“We left it at a stalemate, and anticipate that either just me or both of us will be de-invited, which is no issue to me at the stage,” she wrote.
Despite her feelings, she was concerned for her partner since he and Peter had “over a decade” of history.
Seeking assurance that she wasn’t in the wrong, fellow Redditors rushed to assure the woman that it was the other couple at fault.
“Goodness. I hope no one with blue eyes attend,” one person wrote, adding, “Worrying about something as small as a ring is ridiculous.”
Others made similar jokes, saying that the bride-to-be might complain if it’s “a clear blue sky day.” Some even joked that people with blue eyes might be asked to wear colored contacts.
“Not one person is going to notice your ring. They’re being ridiculous. I hope someone proposes during the reception,” another person wrote, with someone else echoing the message and adding, “If a single ring will steal the spotlight from the wedding party… they must have the personality and charisma of a bucket of plaster.”
Firmly in support of the Redditor, another person had a recommendation on how to proceed.
“Now they don’t claim a color, but an entire subset. That’s laughable. Beyond laughable. I hope you show up, if at all, in a Pepto Bismol pink dress with green shoes,” they proposed.