I wanted revenge on my cheating husband so joined an affairs site & I’m now gutted I remained faithful for so long
A WOMAN has revealed why she regrets not having an affair on her husband.
Most people are fully against cheating on their partner – but she revealed she regrets staying faithful for 17 years.
The woman revealed that she was now 40 and couldn’t resist starting new relationships after being married for so long.
But she didn’t fall into having an affair by accident, she claimed she only sought it after wanting to get revenge on her husband.
She revealed her husband had no idea she was looking for other lovers but didn’t feel one bit bad about it.
The woman said: “Did anybody else join IE (IllicitEncounters) because their partner cheated on them first?
“Originally I was bitter and mad, and wanted to get some sort of secret revenge.”
But since participating in affairs herself – she claimed she understood why it was so much fun.
She continued: “But now I kind of get it, the whole affair thing.
“I almost feel cheated that I had stayed faithful for 17 years, oh well, they do say that life begins in your 40’s.”
The website IllicitEncounters reveals they help people in relationships find romance outside of it.
They write: “Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship.
“Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.”
People were quick to share their thoughts on the wife’s newfound freedom and lust for life.
One person wrote: “100% true. Sad really isn’t it.”
Another commented: “That’s chuffing marvellous my dear. Sounds a bit messy though.”
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“But do you really want to be here? He’s cheated, so now you’re cheating. But do you really want to?” penned a third.
Meanwhile a fourth said: “Two wrongs don’t make a right…”
“If you have any sort of revenge feelings towards your partner it’s time to get divorce in my opinion,” claimed a fifth.
Someone else added: “Guys, girls, everyone cheats. or would if they could get away with it. otherwise why live really….?”
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