I’m single but just bought myself a diamond wedding ring – people don’t think it’s going to work the way I want it to
A FED-UP single woman has found herself caught between a rock and a hard place.
She went all out buying herself a fake wedding ring to wear at work, but people thought her plan was flawed.
A single woman revealed the reason she bought a wedding ring (Stock photo)[/caption]Redditor Dariasdouble212 shared her workplace worries in a post.
She explained that her naturally friendly demeanor started to backfire on her at her new job.
“I started working a retail job 3 months ago. I say good morning/afternoon to every co-worker I see,” she explained.
“Three of those co-workers took that as flirting. I had to tell two of them to back off.”
She got increasingly frustrated after a fourth colleague started to express a bit too much interest in her.
“[He] is now starting to ask questions to get to know me. He even complimented my hair (it’s blue/purple), etc,” she said.
“I am TIRED of men thinking my general kindness is flirting. It’s not. I say hello to everyone. It’s just a thing that I do, and I believe everyone should do that. It makes working with each other easier.”
After weighing her options, she decided she didn’t need to change her personality to cater to the men at her workplace.
Instead, she opted to buy a ring to ward off all future advances.
“This evening, I bought myself a cute salt and pepper diamond wedding ring for only $60 from Etsy,” she said.
“I had been eyeing salt and pepper diamond rings some months before, and now I’ll have one! I am hoping, praying, that the ring will stave off anyone thinking I’m flirting.
“I should get my ring in a couple of days. It’s coming from the same state I’m in. Once I get it, I’ll have to mention my ‘husband’ to this guy.”
“I am just so done,” she added.
While she believed her tactic was rock solid, many women didn’t think her strategy would work.
What is a salt and pepper diamond?
A “salt and pepper” diamond is a stone with a mix of many black and white inclusions, according to Malka Diamonds.
Diamond “inclusions,” or minor imperfections, come in many shapes, sizes, and colors, including black and white.
While most diamonds have some kind of flaw that sets them apart, they’re often small enough to be undetectable to the naked eye.
Salt and pepper diamonds, however, are filled with inclusions that are large enough to be seen.
The identifying feature also helps the gem stand out. No two salt and pepper diamonds are exactly the same. It’s the reason why many soon-to-be brides looking for a special piece opt for the diamond.
“Not to discourage you, but I’ve been married for 33 years, and I’ve literally lost track of how many men have propositioned me,” said one commenter.
“Heck, I had two of my kids in a stroller once at a playground, and two men walked behind me, catcalling and yelling sexually offensive banter at me. It never ends. Married, with kids, etc., they’re sex pests.”
Some seemed to think that no matter what she did, there would be men who simply wouldn’t get the hint.
“I’m worried like others that the ring will only be partially effective,” agreed another woman.
“Damn near gotta start carrying a copy of The Book of Mormon around and ‘save it for marriage.’ That probably won’t work either.”
One woman who tried the same strategy at her workplace shared her disappointing results.
“When I worked in an office, they would not respect me having a ring and even telling them I’m gay. G. A. Y. That’s right, I’m not interested in men,” she said.
“Yet….. These types (an unfortunately high percentage of co-workers) just will not get the hint. There’s no end!”
“Eventually, I had to lay into them hard and firmly tell them I’m not interested. We’re co-workers. Let’s leave it at that.
“Then I left the office because the extra stress was too much. Now I own my own business and walk dogs for a living,” she added.
While some men might be dogs, she revealed that she’d much rather spend her time with actual dogs.
“I relish in the solitude with the puppers. It’s a beautiful thing, not having to worry about advances from co-workers,” she said.