I want to start a new life but my boyfriend is holding me back
DEAR DEIDRE: How do I split up with my boyfriend to start a new life?
The last thing I want is to hurt him, but I’ve grown bored of everything and need a clean break.
I’m 34 and male. My boyfriend is 32 and we’ve been together for six years.
Over the last few six months, I’ve found myself progressively becoming more unmotivated and uninterested in my life.
Since the start of our relationship, nothing has changed. We still live in the same place, work the same jobs, and have all the same friends.
Every day has become the same, to the point where weeks and even months have started to blend together. Most days I wake up dreading the day. Everything has become monotonous and repetitive, just like our relationship.
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The love between us has faded and most of the time it’s almost as if I’m living with a friend. I can’t even remember the last time we were intimate.
I don’t get excited any more when I see him walk around the corner and I’ve started looking at other men, wondering what it would be like to kiss them.
I crave change and I often think about uprooting everything and starting afresh somewhere new.
At this point, the only thing holding me back is my boyfriend, but I’m worried sick about hurting him.
How do I make the break?
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: Putting it off will only be more painful for you both in the long run and it risks things turning bitter when you could separate amicably.
It’s better to be open and explain to your boyfriend how you’ve been feeling.
While adjusting will be hard, you’re doing the right thing and allowing him to find someone who loves him wholeheartedly.
My support pack Ending A Relationship should help you make the break.