My husband sleeps with other women and it SAVED our marriage – I’d never go back to being monogamous, it’s boring
A WOMAN has revealed that becoming polyamorous has saved her marriage to her husband.
Alice Lovegood, 29, revealed that she always felt that something was missing from her relationship, and felt a desire to sleep with more than one person.
Polyamory is the practice of having multiple relationships, with the full consent of all parties involved.
The sex educator revealed that opening up her marriage was something that she felt she had to do, and said she felt blessed that her husband Matthew, 32, was happy fully supportive.
She said: “I feel like I’ve always been polyamorous, but I never really understood what that meant or had a word for it, or that it was even a viable option.
“Then I started to learn more about polyamory as an option, and finally identified with people so I spoke to my husband and after we communicated we opened up to it.”
The pair, from Bristol, decided to sleep with other people after nine years being monogamous together.
Alice revealed that she prefers to meet partners naturally, rather than using dating apps.
She added that Matthew was at first reluctant to take the leap, but is now fully enjoying polyamory.
The husband and wife have put a list of boundaries in place, such as only having casual sex and ensuring they always use protection.
Alice shared that at first, the couple suffered from jealousy, but have now been able to move past that, and grow together.
She believes that she could never be monogamous again, as polyamory is a fundamental part of who she is.
Alice explained how sleeping with other people has helped to improve their marriage.
She said: “It’s put us in a position where I think because you’re choosing each other every single day, you have to turn up.
“You make more effort in nourishing the connection that you have and ensuring that you have quality time and space to communicate your feelings and address them, because if you don’t, then it’s not going to work.
“When you’re in a poly situation, you don’t necessarily need someone to fulfil every part of you. They’re enough as they are and what they provide is enough because you understand that you can have different needs met by different people, just like you would friends.
“I just always thought that there was something wrong with me because I desired connection with more than one person.
“I feel like this is integral to who I am. And I’ve always felt a little bit like a caged bird so we just slowly opened and communicated throughout that opening.
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“We’re raised in a monogamous society and we have only ever experienced monogamy, it’s difficult to understand how you would feel about certain things until you do those things and then realise how you actually feel.
“As we both felt reassured and more secure we reduced the amount of boundaries, now we have complete autonomy over our decisions to be with others but communicate and discuss these regularly.
“I currently have two friends who are more than that but they’re not girlfriends, we are intimate together and I have a very deep connection with them.
“We like to take every relationship as it comes and let them develop alongside our own relationship and that’s really working for us at the moment.”
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