I told my date I ‘lost the spark’ after his gross bathroom move – I got the rudest message in reply, he’s a real charmer
A WOMAN who confronted her date’s gross bathroom move has received the rudest message in reply.
She told him she had “lost the spark” after his strange seduction techniques left her gagging.
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This was not the date she had been expecting and he was a “real charmer.”
But the irony was lost on this knight in shining armor.
She did right to call him out but had to suffer a horrible response from him.
It started so normally, meeting him in a bar and agreeing to meet for a date, she told Redditors in her post.
But warning signals flashed early when he changed plans at the last minute.
“Originally he wanted to do a breakfast date but then changed his mind and insisted that I come to his place to watch a movie at night,” she said.
His charm offensive fell well short, however.
It appeared he had none at all and wasn’t bothered about disguising the fact.
“When I entered his place, the dishes were dirty and piled high, he was wearing a baggy shirt and basketball shorts,” she said.
There were more red flags when he made a tame excuse to watch the movie in his bedroom.
She was uncomfortable but agreed, even though the only place to sit was on the bed.
Then, to her horror, he tried to snuggle up to her, and she hated it.
It was, she said, “forced intimacy.”
At one point this Romeo even peed in the bathroom with the door open.
She could not wait to get out of the joint, and as soon as the movie was finished, she was out of there.
But he was not reading the room and suggested they could hang out the following evening.
She backed away from his attempt at a hug and fled.
There was no way in hell she was going on another date with him.
“I think I just lost the spark from the other night,” she said attempting to explain why there would be no second date.
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He did not take this well.
“Well maybe if you weren’t sleeping with half the town you wouldn’t have lost the spark,” he said.
Her reaction was “a real charmer huh?”
Commenters were appalled at his behavior, but also concerned she could have placed herself in a dangerous situation.
“You should NEVER go to someone’s house if you don’t know them that well for this exact reason,” said one person.
“That could have gone south fast. It’s best to meet in a public place so you can get help if you need it and they are less likely to do anything bold. Be safe,” they added.