I always rush into relationships and scare men away
DEAR DEIDRE: HOW do I learn to go with the flow when I meet a man?
As soon as I start talking to anyone, I want to know exactly what their intentions are.
I get all serious, putting so much pressure on them, it drives them away.
I want to slow down but can’t help myself.
Most of my relationships have been with people who are attached in one way or another.
I think it’s down to my past – my parents hated one another with a passion.
My mum had numerous affairs, but they never divorced.
I’m a 52-year-old single mother of two boys aged 15 and 18.
I can’t seem to get myself out of this rut, but I don’t want to be like this any more. I am so miserable.
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