Man Thinks His Girlfriend Is 'Controlling' After She Berates Him for Changing Easter Plans. He's Got Screenshots to Back Him Up

A man is reaching a critical point in his relationship with his “controlling” girlfriend after she reacted to him changing their Easter plans.

On Reddit‘s “Am I Overreacting” forum, the man sought some relationship advice and asked for assurance that he wasn’t in the wrong.

He explained that he normally spends the weekend at his girlfriend’s house, saying that they’d been together for roughly two years. Their general plan is to do Saturday through Monday.

However, he asked to switch things up due to the holiday and got a very heated text message from his partner.

Now, he’s showing the messages and asking about if his behavior was wrong.

Keep reading to find out more…

In his post, the Redditor explained that he wanted to spend some time on Easter with his mom. Thus, he proposed going to his girlfriend’s on Friday instead of Saturday and leaving on Sunday evening.

His request didn’t go well, based on screenshots of text messages that they allegedly exchanged.

“Would you be mad if I came over tomorrow then left like Sunday evening so I could have the rest of Easter with my mom?” the man asked his partner in a text. She replied, writing, “I f—ing knew you were gonna do that. Just stay home this weekend dawg.”

As he defended himself, writing that he didn’t “want to leave [his] mom home alone on Easter depressed,” his girlfriend called his behavior annoying and interpreted his text as “Actualllyyyy f— whatever you have planned out my mommy said no.”

They continued to argue, with him finally writing, “I’ll be there for 2.5 days just like our regular schedule.”

“It’s not our regular schedule though,” she replied, laying out all the reasons that the holiday would stress her out and having her boyfriend leave early would make it worse.

She added, “I’d rather just give in to you not wanting to come over and you stay home than have the s—tiest weekend ever.”

He provided additional context, saying that he and his mom were “having a hard time right now” and that she was “upset about family matters.” His proposal was a “compromise” so that he could be with both of the women on the holiday.

The Redditor said that his girlfriend has acted like this before.

“I always try to compromise and work things out with her but I always end up taking blame and apologizing. It’s really starting to hurt and I feel like she is controlling me at this point. There’s no working things out with her, it’s just a repetitive cycle of me being verbally dragged around and berated. It’s genuinely starting to break me down,” he wrote.

Others rushed to reply with questions and concerns.

“Why are you in a relationship with someone who treats you like this?” one person asked, with others clearly agreeing.

Another person agreed, writing, “Frankly you seem to be under reacting.” They added, “Like this is so dramatic and she’s so reactionary! Why does she need you absolutely all to herself for days?”

“I’d ask yourself if you’re happy in this relationship and if it’s worth being treated this way. Cause it’s very intense and maybe you should start skipping your weekend at your dad’s… I mean gf house,” they said, comparing the situation to one where the girlfriend is a “manipulative bio father that has weekend custody of you.”

Yet another Redditor chimed in, writing, “Bro you can see it in your first message. You were already walking on egg shells knowing you were about to get insulted and send her into a rage.”

They continued, adding, “I was there once. Wasn’t easy to walk away for several reasons but at the end of the day, just ask yourself if this is the person you’d feel comfortable marrying and entangling your life with.”

While many people agreed that the girlfriend was in the wrong, some asked questions about what they had originally planned.

“Your [girlfriend] sounds exasperated but maybe she has a right to be?” one person asked.

Another person chimed in: “Agreed. Everyone on here acts like people never have a right to be pissed. Yea she said some s— that’s probably overreacting, but this seems like the latest in a string of being let down by OP at the last minute.”

They continued, writing, “I guarantee you she could make a post saying ‘AIO, my BF keeps changing plans to spend more time with his mom and leaving me high and dry?’ and take some previous convos and this first message. Everyone on here would be like ‘red flag, it’s not worth it girl.’ Relationships are hard. She has a right to be pissed when you let her down.”