Bride Complains Her Mom Is 'Momzilla of Epic Proportions.' Others Think There's Plenty of Blame to Go Around

A bride is feeling frustrated about her mom’s involvement in her wedding, calling her a “momzilla of epic proportions.” However, others are not sure the mom’s the only problem.

Taking to Reddit‘s “Wedding Shaming” forum, the woman explained that she and her partner were getting married in October after a lengthy engagement.

Wedding planning hit a snag in January when both the bride and groom lost their jobs. The woman explained that they had to cancel their venue, which her mom had paid the deposit on.

They lost the deposit, and her mom has been difficult to deal with ever since. It wasn’t the only issue that they’d had, either.

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In her post, the bride wrote that her mom has been making demands because she thinks being the mother of the bride is a “high position” that requires a special “place in the wedding.”

“Every step she’s felt entitled to having more control and argued every decision we’ve made,” the bride wrote, noting that she and her mom hadn’t been close growing up. “Now that I’m getting married she wants to rush in and act like we’ve always been close when it’s been the total opposite and has made very little effort to spend time with us as a couple.”

The bride explained that her mom had given them $10,000 for the wedding. Part of that was lost when they cancelled their venue, and the momzilla apparently “kept insisting this decision [to cancel] was our ‘choice’ not forced on us.”

After they found another venue, the mom was upset that her 16 friends couldn’t remain on the guest list. Then she started threatening not to bring the bride’s grandmother and said she “doesn’t want” to host a bridal shower.

“At every step involving my mother has been a nightmare,” she wrote, noting that she “even ruined my dress shopping experience because my bridesmaids were there and she expected me to only include her.”

After the latest dilemma, the mom apparently threatened not to come and is telling other members of the family they shouldn’t attend, either. It’s gotten so bad that the bride thinks her brother and sister-in-law will be the only family members there on her day.

Despite that, she wrote, “I’m deeply hurt but also a little relieved,” explaining, “My fiance and I just want our wedding to be a joyful experience for all and the relief of her not being there to potentially ruin it is sadly not a concern anymore.”

“I feel terrible for feeling this way about my mother but I don’t know what else to do at this point,” she wrote.

Other Redditors had some thoughts about what she should have done in the first place.

One user wrote that the issues were “pretty much on [the bride],” explaining that they’d accepted the money knowing her mom was controlling.

“I’m sorry, but you’re a whole a– grown adult, and this is pretty much the most predictable outcome,” they said. “I honestly thought this post was from someone in their early to mid 20s. Drop the victim complex, and have the wedding you can afford. Pay her back with whatever cash you get as gifts.”

While they added that the mom “clearly sucks,” the current situation was “the price you pay when you dance with the devil.”

“Can’t help but agree. Nothing is free, especially not money and especially especially wedding money. OP invited a vampire into the house and is now unhappy that there’s a vampire in the house,” another person wrote.

Providing “tough love,” a third Redditor said, “You’re an adult getting married, act like it.”

“This whole thing could have been avoided by not using her money. That’s it – that’s the whole thing,” they said. “Pay for the event yourself and budget accordingly. Give the money back, grow a backbone and tell her how YOUR wedding will be. If she doesn’t want to go and be pleasant then tough s—.”