Woman Worries She Took It too Far in Text to Her Best Friend Who Was Stealing from Her. Others Say She's Being Way too Nice

A woman was shocked to learn that her friend was essentially stealing from her for more than a year.

In a post on Reddit‘s “Am I the A–hole” forum, the woman explained that she’d welcomed her best friend of 10 years into her home to help her and her husband take care of their cat while they’re out of town.

However, after the most recent time that the pal, whom she referred to as Lucy, stayed over to cat sit, the Redditor learned that she’d been using the opportunity to take things without permission.

After coming to the realization, she sent Lucy a message calling her out. She’s worried that she took it too far; however, other people insist that she was way too nice.

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In her post, the woman offered more insight, saying that Lucy and her partner had stayed in the house for two weeks.

A few weeks later, Lucy told the Redditor that she’d “borrowed” her expensive sweatpants and still needed to return them.

“I didn’t know she had taken them, and she wouldn’t have known this, but they were a gift I’d only worn once,” she wrote, noting that the pants were returned with another pair of pricey yoga pants.

She said that Lucy “brought out a huge bag of clothes, far more than I knew she had.”

The woman went on to describe what was in the bag: “some things were missing since last summer, some were new and never washed/worn, some were sentimental/vintage. they were clearly from multiple drawers and cabinets in my bedroom and closet, not things I willingly lent her.”

After going through the bag, she said that Lucy apologized and offered to return anything else that might have been taken.

The woman realized that Lucy had been taking and keeping things without permission ever since she started cat sitting roughly a year and a half ago.

“She said next time i’m over I can look through her closet to see if she missed anything. at this point I had been trying to get my stuff back for around 6 weeks,” she wrote.

Finally, she decided to sent Lucy a lengthy message about the situation.

“I need to be honest about how serious this feels to me,” she wrote, adding, “Over the past year and a half, you went through multiple drawers and cabinets in my home and took so many items without ever asking or telling me. some of these were things i had never worn/washed. some were gifts. some were sentimental or vintage and irreplaceable. i’ve also spent time thinking i lost certain items at yoga or in my building’s laundry, never once imagining that my friend, someone i trusted in my home, had taken them from me.”

She continued: “I need the rest of my belongings returned. if you’re unsure if something is mine, send me a picture and I can let you know.”

“I just need space to process everything because i didn’t expect this at all while you were staying here and i am at a complete loss because i never thought you would be someone to violate my privacy in such a big way,” she concluded.

In all, “around 25 pieces of clothing” have been returned. However, the Redditor said that Lucy and another of their best friends have called her out for being mean in the text.

Fellow Redditors rushed in to assure her that she was doing the right thing by taking a stand.

“This person is not your friend and is taking advantage of you. I would find another cat sitter,” one person replied.

Another agreed, pointing, “Your ‘friend’ stole from you and is making it your responsibility to tell her what she stole.”

“She took advantage of your trust and friendship. She stole from you while being paid to do a job in your home. You have the right to request your things back,” someone wrote, adding, “You handled it with politeness and class. You didn’t use bad or aggressive language make any threats or false accusations. I assume you didn’t try to ruin her social or professional life either with drama.”

The original poster replied to some people in the comments section, ultimately revealing just how surprised she was by the latest developments.

“I did think we would be okay and still be friends after this, because she does have a good heart, but after our mutual friend blowing up on me over this text I don’t think things will actually be salvageable,” she wrote.