'Sleep Deprived' Mom Feels 'Micromanaged' by Husband, Who Won't Speak to Her After She Made This Request

A stay at home mom is finding herself in a tough position with her work from home husband over their differing parenting styles. Now he’s not speaking to her after she made a recommendation about how to handle things.

The 36-year-old “sleep deprived” mom said that she takes care of the couple’s 3-year-old daughter and 5-month-old baby while her husband works.

However, in Reddit‘s “Am I the A–hole” forum, she explained that she feels “micromanaged” by her stricter husband all day long.

She finally reached a breaking point and came up with a way for them to manage things, but now he thinks that she doesn’t appreciate him.

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In her post, she explained that she likes to keep the house tidy but gets tired of “negotiating with [her] toddler all day” to clean up.

Instead, she tends to clean up the toys with her daughter “later in the day.”

This led to an argument with her husband, who “got upset that I let her get more toys out when there’s already some out.”

She wrote that he “told [her] in front of [their daughter] that I shouldn’t let her have more toys when she already has some out. He also said he asked her to clean up some toys in her room, but that she isn’t listening and now I let her have more,” a request that the mom was unaware of.

“I told him that’s his job to follow through his parenting when he asked her to clean up some toys (he didn’t follow through),” she said, explaining that it didn’t feel like it was her “battle” since she didn’t start things.

That’s when she came up with an idea, saying, “So I told him maybe he should go work in office so that [I'm] not getting micromanaged during my job (stay at home mom). He said I’m a jerk for saying that and now isn’t talking to me.”

Asking if she was in the wrong, she added, “I genuinely feel justified in just wanting to handle what I do at home while he focuses on work and stops trying to push his parenting style on me when I’m already just trying to survive and sleep deprived.”

Responders to the post were mixed, though many did agree with the woman feeling micromanaged.

“It’s pretty demeaning – it’s not like you’re an employee and he is literally the boss of you, although he is really trying to get you come around to thinking of him as The Boss,” one Redditor opined, adding that she should take drastic measures to prove a point.

Their recommendation: “If it’s feasible in terms of the baby’s feeding schedule, consider leaving him with both kids and going away for the weekend (or at the very least, a whole 8 hour day at a spa), so he can spend all his time arguing with your toddler and see what hills he feels like dying on after that.”

Another person had a similar idea, writing, “I’m petty, so I would probably say something like, ‘If you can do your job and take care of the kids, I’m going to go and get a massage.’ ”

However, some people were more split and identified a root problem that the couple needed to address.

“I don’t think [work from home] is the issue. It sounds like you two need to sit down and discuss parenting style. This is bigger than WFH vs in office. After you talk about parenting, you should sit down and also go over expectations and boundaries with WFH/SAHM roles,” one advised.

Other users echoed the sentiment, with one saying, “Parenting is supposed to be a team effort and neither of you sounds like you’re on the same team. The both of you should’ve been had this conversation before your oldest was even born, tbh. No more of this ‘not my battle’ bulls—.”