Bridesmaid Worries She Ruined Her Friend's Wedding & 'Permanently Damaged' Relationship, Others Think the Bride's a 'Villain'

A bridesmaid was concerned that she ruined her best friend’s wedding. However, some people think that the bride was setting herself up for failure from the very beginning.

Taking to Reddit’s “Today I F—ed Up” forum. a woman explained that she felt like the “villain” because her friend was “stress-spiraling” after her alarm didn’t go off, causing her to miss an important task.

Since she woke up two hours late, she wasn’t able to pick up the mothers of the bride and groom to get them to their makeup appointments on the big day.

It sounds like a horrible mistake. However, once Redditors saw more details, they weren’t sure if it was really the bridesmaid’s fault that she slept in.

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In her post, the woman explained that it was a destination wedding that took place at 4 a.m.

“Yes. FOUR. IN. THE. MORNING,” she reiterated.

The bridesmaid and the mothers were supposed to get their makeup done at 9:30 p.m., and the friend had agreed to drive everyone since they lived close.

“Easy. Simple. I got this,” she wrote. “Except… I did not got this.”

Although phone wasn’t set to silent, she said that her alarm never went off, and she didn’t wake up until 11 p.m., two hours behind schedule.

At that point, the moms were getting “panicked” and decided that the only course of action was to wake up the bride.

“So now it’s the middle of the night before her wedding and instead of peacefully preparing to get married, she’s stress-spiraling because I vanished from existence,” the concerned friend wrote.

Thankfully everything worked out, but the bride “was upset (rightfully so),” the rested bridesmaid said.

“I felt like absolute garbage. Full anxiety attack. Apologized approximately one thousand times. I was convinced I had permanently damaged our friendship and possibly the entire institution of marriage,” she wrote, eventually describing herself as “the villain in my best friend’s wedding story.”

The wedding went off without a hitch, and the bride “eventually calmed down.”

However, the Redditor noted that she “still [feels] sick” over what happened, since she “messed up.”

Even still, she doesn’t think she’s entirely at fault.

“That part is on me. But a tiny irrational part of my brain keeps wondering… couldn’t they have woken up the bride’s sister? Or called an Uber? Or literally anything other than waking up the bride at 10PM to tell her her bridesmaid disappeared?” she asked.

In the replies, many people agreed that the bridesmaid didn’t make the ultimate sin.

Some Reddit users were horrified at the idea of a wedding taking place at 4 a.m.

While one person noted that it was “probably a sunrise ceremony,” they added, “Everyone thinks sunrise hikes and things are so romantic until they realize the crack of dawn commitment.”

Another user added on, writing, “The sheer rage I’d have at having to spend all night getting ready for this nonsense would drag the moon into a new orbit, [blotting] out the sun and causing a tidal wave to wash the ceremony into the sunless depths where it belonged.”

“If anyone I knew, best friend, brother, sister, f—ing anyone! was having a 4am wedding, I wouldn’t be going,” one user wrote, with another chiming in to agree and add: “It could be my fiance, and I still wouldn’t go.”

Someone summed it up simply, saying, “You did not f— up. The f— up was having a motherf—ing wedding at 4 f–ing AM in the f—ing morning.”

While others pointed out that the moms could have called anyone else, two Redditors were confused by the bride still being asleep.

“The bride was still sleeping while everyone else was supposed to be running around getting ready? Please just uninvite me,” one person wrote, sarcastically implying the bride might actually be the villain.

Agreeing, another added, “That’s the part that seemed extra ridiculous to me. Most brides end up being the first ones to wake up. I can’t believe [original poster] is stressing herself out so much about the moms waking up the bride. The bride should already have been awake. If you’re asking people to be awake much earlier than everyone else, you should also have to do the same thing yourself.”