Woman Who Thinks She Gave a Friend Advice Is Called 'Bitter' & 'Jealous.' Her Words Have People Asking 1 Question

A woman said that her friend of years isn’t speaking to her any more after she gave her some advice. Now, she’s worried that she might have crossed a line.

Taking to Reddit‘s popular “Am I the A–hole” forum, the Redditor wrote that she’s “honestly at [her] limit” with her pal over the way that she approaches life.

In a moment of frustration, she gave her friend what she thought was tough love. However she was surprised when her friend called her “jealous” and “bitter.”

Now, people think that the friend might not be totally wrong in her opinion, and people are asking the concerned woman one major question.

Keep reading to find out more…

In her post, the woman said that her friend’s approach to dating isn’t good.

“She’s been single for about three years and dates constantly. Every breakup is apparently the guy’s fault. They’re intimidated, they’re broke, they’re insecure, they’re not masculine enough, they don’t ‘step up,’ ” she wrote.

However, the Redditor said that she’s “watched how she dates” and has some concerns.

“She’s hypercritical from the start. If a guy doesn’t text the exact way she likes, he’s low effort. If he doesn’t pay for everything, he’s ‘dusty.’ If he shows emotion too soon, she says it gives her the ick. If he doesn’t plan something extravagant early on, he’s not serious. She says she wants a provider, but also someone emotionally intelligent, but also dominant, but also soft, but also obsessed with her but not clingy. It’s like the requirements change every week,” she claimed, adding that she’d dumped a guy after dating for six weeks because he didn’t make her birthday “special enough.”

The unlucky-in-love woman “went on a rant about how men just can’t handle a woman like her.”

That’s when the Redditor reached her limit.

“I told her Maybe it’s that she’s exhausting to date and no one actually likes her personality once they get to know her,” she admitted. “She just stared at me. Then she said I was jealous, bitter, and secretly happy she’s single.”

While she thought that she “probably could have worded it better,” the woman also thought that “someone had to say it.”

Asking if she was in the wrong, she added, “I can see how from her perspective, I came off as judgmental instead of supportive, even though my intention was to be honest and help her reflect.”

Fellow Redditors were split on the topic, but many of them had a key question for the woman.

“Why are you friends with this person? It sounds like you don’t like her. I mean, you literally told her that no one likes her personality. Why would you want to be friends with someone you don’t like?” someone asked.

Another agreed with the assessment, writing, “If this was someone I actually liked, I would tell her that she’s not successful at dating because her expectations are unrealistic and she keeps changing the goal post.”

“Someone can be a great friend and a great person and still be terrible at dating, depending on the reason why they’re terrible. Telling someone that nobody likes her personality says more about the person saying it than the person hearing it,” they added.

Writing that friends should support one another, another Redditor admitted that this friend sounded “exhausting and high maintenance.”

However, she added, “So again, I’m not sure why you’d be ‘friends’ with someone you don’t like.”

“There were a hundred better ways to phrase what you said, and it probably felt like a totally unexpected betrayal because it sounds like you’ve been silently judging her for a long time,” someone else wrote, adding that her remarks were the equivalent to “literally ripping her to shreds.”

Yet another Redditor was left asking why the women were friends.

“I read your description and it sounds like she’s self-sabotaging. She likes the idea of dating, but she’s scared of committing, for whatever reason. She’s not my friend and I already have a more generous interpretation of her behavior than you do,” they hypothesized.

“Instead of saying ‘You want contradictory things in a partner. Do you want to date a person or a fantasy?’ you said ‘No one likes you.’ That’s not helpful, even if it were true. You didn’t say that with the intention of being helpful because it’s not like ‘Have you tried not sucking?’ is actionable advice,” they continued. “Honestly, it sounds like you don’t like her personality, so why are you friends?”