Shoppers Say This Whisper-Quiet Suction Toy “Outperforms Any Man” — So I Tried It, and…Wow

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Nancy’s Lem clitoral massager is one of the best suction toys on the market, full stop. But before we get into the details of this review, let me give you some background.

I’ve been covering sex tech for years, so when I dub something the “best,” you can trust that it’s undergone extensive testing. My office closet is basically a pop-up sex shop — there are boxes and boxes of toys stacked from floor to ceiling, all waiting to be tested or reviewed. I also earned a certificate from Sextech School, and I have endometriosis, which means I’m super invested in finding toys that are gentle yet powerful enough for people with pelvic pain to comfortably experience intimacy again. (Which, this one delivers on both fronts.)

Of course, pleasure is entirely subjective. What blows my mind may only be “meh” for someone else. Use my experience as a starting point to figure out whether Nancy’s Lem Clitoral Massager is worthy of your goodie drawer.

What is Nancy’s Lem (and how does it work?)

Nancy’s Lem is a now-viral clitoral suction toy that’s designed to provide targeted stimulation without direct contact. It’s ideal for anyone who isn’t a fan of penetration or prefers the sensation of air pulsation over traditional vibration. (It’s also great for warming up before intercourse if you have trouble getting aroused or experience vaginal dryness — it’s a nice little foreplay treat.)

The Lem is super easy to use (it also looks exactly like a lemon, hence the name) and has intuitive controls via one large button.

How to charge the Lem: I recommend letting the Lem charge completely before your first sesh. Quick note: Because the brand is continually evolving its design, your Lem might arrive with either a USB-C port or a magnetic charger. (Both are 100% waterproof!) If yours has the flap, just pull it up and plug it in; a little blinking light will appear. It takes around 90 minutes to reach a full charge, and you’ll get about 120 minutes of playtime.

How to use it:

Test it on a non-sexual body part first. Once you’re charged up and ready to go, I suggest experimenting with the settings before placing it on your clitoris. This way, you know what to expect and don’t accidentally overstimulate yourself.

Power it on. Just press and hold the power button for two seconds to turn it on. It’ll vibrate once to let you know that it’s working.

Find the rhythm that works for you. There are 12 intensities and patterns to play with. Level 1 is “gentle,” Levels 7-8 are “intense,” and Levels 9-12 are “rhythmic” with the intensity of Levels 5-6.

Lube it up. Grab your favorite water-based lube (remember, silicone lube can’t be used with silicone toys, and oil-based lube stains the sheets!) and apply a few drops to your intimate bits before positioning the device’s silicone nozzle over your clitoris. Pro-tip: If the lube is cold, warm it between your fingers or roll the bottle in your hands a few times to bring it to body temp. 

Go to town. Start slow and gradually increase the intensity to find what works for you! The Lem is IPX7-rated, so you can experiment in the shower or bathtub if you’d like. It won’t ruin the toy, promise!

My Honest Nancy’s Lem Review 

As someone living with endometriosis, interstitial cystitis, and occasional vaginismus spasms, pelvic pain can sometimes make traditional vibrators or penetration uncomfortable or even painful. That’s how I got into air suction toys — they’re gentle, but can still deliver on their promise of an orgasm. (Also, I just want to note that orgasm doesn’t always have to be the goal. Pleasuring yourself doesn’t need to result in climax for it to be a valid and satisfying experience!) 

My all-time favorite clitoral suction toy is no longer on the market, and when I first opened the Lem, I definitely thought I was going to be disappointed, but I was pleasantly surprised to find I was completely wrong. (You know what they say about assuming…) 

The toy fit me perfectly sans awkward grip (sometimes, toys like this sit weird on the clitoris, but this one was just right). It’s also easy to hold. The silicone is smooth to the touch and body-safe, which is always a must. I was able to get myself there in just a few minutes, without any residual pelvic soreness afterward. It gave me all the intensity I wanted, totally pain-free.

Let’s talk about the design. 

The Lem was designed to be discreet. Everything about this toy is low-profile, from the cute fruit-inspired aesthetic to its compact form. You could literally set it on a decorative plate and leave it out during the day (tons of reviewers say that they love that they can leave it out when they’re not using it). It’s also TSA-friendly and comes with a little drawstring pouch, so you can throw it in a carry-on without drawing any unwanted attention. 

What’s even better is that this little lemon operates whisper-quiet (less than 50 decibels); you can barely hear it when it’s running. So, if you have roommates, are a parent who desperately needs a little “me time,” or just don’t want to be distracted by a bunch of buzzing while you’re trying to butter your muffin, the Lem is the vibe to get. 

What Real Users Are Saying (Site vs. Reddit) 

While my experience with the Lem has been nothing short of impressive, I always like to include a few additional voices in my reviews to make them more comprehensive and offer a more rounded opinion. 

Between the official website and the r/sextoy subreddit, the consensus is overwhelmingly positive, but there’s just one design flaw I need to mention: Because the Lem only has one main control button, you can only click up in intensity. If you hit level 6 and realize it’s way too strong, you can’t just click a “down” button to go back to level 5. You have to cycle all the way through the highest settings to reset it back to the lowest level. It’s not a dealbreaker, but it can definitely disrupt the flow of your solo sesh if you aren’t expecting it.

That’s, like, my only qualm though. Otherwise, I’m just as obsessed as these reviewers: 

“Got a Lem a few months ago and holy sh*t I have never come so hard in my life.” They also added that while they weren’t sure what to expect at first, it made them squirt for the very first time. (Bless.) 

“On its low settings (2-3), it’s nice and quiet. I can just put it in place, gently squeeze my thighs together, and just let it sit there, no hands needed, it’s like magic.”

“Whoever invented this deserves the next Nobel Peace Prize. This is now my go-to divorce gift to any of my girlfriends; no man can outperform the Lem.” 

“I have zero regrets and avoiding accepting breadcrumbs from a partner when I can get the whole entree from Lemon without the drama or time getting ready! It was easy to use, and I have been pleased over and over.”

The Final Verdict: Is it worth it?

Absolutely. If you struggle with pelvic pain or if you’re a beginner who prefers external stimulation, Nancy’s Lem is a good option. It’s also great for couples play (it’s basically a foreplay magic trick). 

At $159, it’s competitively priced against other big-name suction toys on the market, but its whisper-quiet motor and power output give it an edge. Plus, the Hello Nancy site usually has a sale going on. You can get it for just $66.75 right now with the code LEM25. Plus, the brand offers a 30-day satisfaction guarantee and free shipping, so you can test it out totally risk-free. So if you hate it (though I don’t think you will), you can return it and get a refund.