If you want better mornings, change what you do after 7 p.m.
You’ve tried it all before. Waking up at 5:30 a.m. Journaling first thing in the morning. The exercises you’re supposed to do before work. But do your morning habits stick? Are you still practicing them?
We all want to “win the morning,” to be productive and intentional. The trouble with morning routines is that they don’t work as they should if you don’t fix your evening habits. People are obsessed with morning routines. But they forget that winning in the morning starts the night before.
Every single choice you make after dinner is either setting you up for a great morning or sabotaging tomorrow before it begins. That late-night binge doesn’t just keep you up. It’s changing your entire sleep-wake cycle. That work email you answered at 10 p.m. stays on your mind and makes you think about all the many responses you’re expecting.
Doing work or dealing with issues right before bed keeps your brain thinking, figuring out options. And the worst part is that you pick it all up again when you wake up. You’re not just losing sleep. You’re training your brain to wake up in stress mode.
The quality of your evening routine determines the success of your morning habits. Every time you miss out on a better evening ritual, your morning routine will suffer. Your willpower will be lower.
The decision fatigue trap most people overlook
By the end of your day, you’ve already made thousands of decisions: what to wear, what to eat, which emails to answer, which tasks to tackle first. Each decision demands mental energy. The more decisions you make in the morning, the less energy you have left for your tasks.
The bigger problem? If you wait until morning to decide what you’re going to do first, you’re not starting your day right. Make your morning decisions at night instead.
In just 10 to 15 minutes the night before, eliminate the decisions that stop you from taking action on your ideal morning routine. Write down a list of things you want to get right in the morning. You’ll sleep better and feel more prepared when you wake up. By creating a good plan the night before, you set yourself up to be productive.
I’ve been using this pre-decision method to make my writing habit stick for years. And it’s working for me. I decide what to write the night before. I even write down the introduction. And then I pick up where I left off.
You could start by prioritizing three tasks for the morning. By reducing the number of decisions you have to make, you free up time to actually make your morning habit, whatever you intend it to be, stick.
I think of an evening routine as a system—a series of small dominoes you set up for the results you want. Start with your sleep. Everything flows from this.
Your brain begins winding down for sleep a few hours before bedtime as part of your natural sleep-wake cycle. Work with this, not against it. That means two hours before bed, start dimming lights. Put away work. No more emails. Your body needs time to transition into a good morning.
You could even take it further—30 minutes before bed is your clarity window. Journal if you want. Read a good book. The goal is to empty your brain so you’re not lying awake thinking about all the things you need to remember.
Now try to go to bed at the same time each night. An inconsistent sleep routine prevents your body from releasing hormones at the right time, which can throw off your sleep cycle. Give your brain the right evening routine to shut down. When you prepare the night before, you’re not relying on willpower in the morning. You’re just following the plan you already made.
Self-control is highest in the morning and steadily deteriorates over the course of the day. Use your evening brain, which is tired but still functional, to set up your morning brain for success.
Establishing a Routine Takes Time
You’re not going to nail this immediately. You’re going to forget something in the evening. You’ll most likely stay up late watching just one more episode. If you break the chain, don’t stress yourself about it. The goal is to make your defaults a little bit better—to remove some of the friction between you and the person you want to be in the morning.
Start small. Pick one thing you’re going to decide the night before. Just one. Maybe it’s writing down three things you need to do in the morning. Do that for a week. Then add another thing. Aim to add one or two changes at a time, slowly building a routine. What you want is sustainable change.
“Morning people” are not more disciplined than you. They just figured out that mornings are won the night before. Do the boring work the night before. And go to bed on time. Tonight, before you go to bed, do three things. Decide what time you’re waking up tomorrow. Be specific. Write down what you’re doing first when you wake up.
Prep whatever you need to make that happen. Make it visible. That’s the system and the setup to give your morning a chance to be successful. Everything else can come later.
Your morning routine is failing because you’re trying to build a routine without systems, and making decisions when you should be doing things. Fix the night habits, and the mornings will be better.