Bride Accused of Disinviting Cousin to Her Wedding by Family, but She Swears She's Not a 'Bridezilla Monster'

A bride-to-be was left feeling like a “monster” after members of her family accused her of disinviting one of her cousins to her big day.

Taking to Reddit’s popular “Am I the A——” forum, the 32-year-old woman explained that her 36-year-old cousin had been “thrilled” about her engagement and even offered to do the bridal party’s hair for the ceremony.

After hesitantly accepting, the bride learned the hard way that “mixing family and vendor roles can get messy” when planning a wedding.

Now, her cousin is not coming to the wedding and making her out to be a “bridezilla monster” to various members of the family, some of whom are agreeing.

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In her post, the woman went by the name Ellie and called her cousin Melanie.

She explained that Melanie wanted to do everyone’s hair as a wedding gift.

After accepting the offer, the bride also asked her cousin to join the wedding party. As the wedding date approached, Melanie seemed perfectly in agreement with all of the plans.

However, she no-showed the bride after flying into town and proposing they meet for a trial run on her hair.

That was just the start of it getting bad.

“Meanwhile, around my wedding, she somehow managed to plan multiple vacations and schedule a BBL for the week after. But when it came time to book her hotel and rental car for my wedding, suddenly she couldn’t afford to come,” Ellie wrote.

She continued, noting that Melanie demanded she be able to stay at Ellie‘s home and get picked up from the airport the weekend of the wedding, which wasn’t possible.

“So she said fine, she wasn’t coming, and I’d need to find another hairstylist. I PANICKED. It was last-minute. I scrambled and managed to book someone and sent the details in the bridesmaids’ group chat,” Ellie shared.

“Melanie LOST IT,” she added.

Her cousin argued that if Ellie could lineup a last-minute hairstylist to replace her, then she had the money “to rent her a car and get her an Airbnb as a thank-you for doing everyone’s hair.”

Since Melanie had already said she wouldn’t be able to make the wedding, Ellie stopped engaging with her messages. That’s when her cousin started getting members of the family involved, telling them that she’d been “uninvited” to the wedding.

“Suddenly, I’m getting calls asking why I would do something so cruel. One aunt even canceled her RSVP because she said she didn’t want to attend a wedding where I would treat family like that,” Ellie wrote, noting that others were agreeing with her about the situation.

The bride was left “FURIOUS” when Melanie reached out to another cousin, who offered her a place to stay for the wedding weekend.

Adding that she felt “Exhausted. Hurt. Embarrassed that people thought I was some bridezilla monster,” Ellie told her cousin that Melanie was no longer welcome.

The cousin agreed with Ellie, saying that they’d respect her wishes about Melanie.

“Now Melanie is demanding I pay her back for the bridesmaid dress, and about half my family thinks I’m the a—— because ‘she figured it out in the end’ and I should have let her come,” Ellie wrote, asking if her choice was “justified” or if she had “detonated a bomb in [her] family.”

Fellow Redditors rushed to weigh in, assuring her that she was not in the wrong.

“Melanie is a mess. She flaked on being your hairstylist AND a bridesmaid,” one person wrote, advising, “I would write up a concise list of all this, and just copy paste that to anyone mad at you.”

Another user described the disgruntled cousin as a “Bridesmaidzilla.”

“Melanie is a bum. She offered it as a gift and then still wanted something from you, that gut feeling you had was letting you know,” yet another person wrote, with someone agreeing “Melanie was never going to do anything at the wedding, except be a problem.”

“So she offered to be the hairstylist for your wedding party YET thought you should pay for a rental and Air b&b to provide this gift????” another Redditor wrote, adding, “Wow the logic is mindblowing.”

They continued, saying, “As for the people on her side of this contradiction, i would remind them that recieving a wedding invite is a honor not a right and if they feel so little of you (and are really dim to take her side) then they need not attend.”