I'm an American who moved to a small French village. I tried to adjust, but learned I wasn't built for country living.

• After living in New York and Berlin, I moved to a small French village to escape chaotic city life.
• I struggled to feel at home without city conveniences like food delivery and public transportation.
• Two years later, we moved to Lyon, which felt like a perfect compromise.

Growing up in a remote California suburb, I spent most of my childhood counting down the days until I could leave for a big city.

When the time came to move to New York for college, I was prepared to say goodbye to country living for good. I spent six years in New York, and then another four in Berlin.

Although I loved my experiences in both cities, I was exhausted. Years of apartment hopping, navigating dirty subways, and dealing with nonstop hustle left me craving a reprieve — and wondering why I'd been so quick to swear off a quainter life in the country.

So, when my husband proposed that we move to a little village near his family in France, I surprised myself by agreeing to give it a try.

This was in 2021, when COVID-19 restrictions were making it challenging to live in Berlin, and we were both desperate for the benefits that such a relocation could offer — like more square footage, a yard, and, most importantly, proximity to our loved ones and their support.

The reservations I had about residing in the country were still nagging me, but I figured things would be different this time. I was older, wiser, and doing it in beautiful France, of all places.

I wish I had listened to my gut, though, because all my old qualms with country living ended up rearing their ugly heads — and we ended up leaving after two years.

Without a driver's license, I felt isolated by the lack of public transit

I never needed a driver's license when I lived in cities, but that all changed when we moved to the French village. There, we simply couldn't get around without a car — but we sure tried.

I knew going in that my public transportation options would be more limited than they were in a city, but I didn't expect to be as isolated as we were.

When we first arrived, it took us over a month to work up the funds to buy a car. In the meantime, we attempted one very hilly bike ride, but had to call it quits before we'd even made it halfway to our destination.

Walking was no better — it took hours to get to the nearest shops, and sometimes they wouldn't even be open when we finally arrived.

Even after we obtained a vehicle, I couldn't navigate on my own without my husband, since he was the only one with a license.

He was always willing to drive me around, but I was frustrated by my newfound lack of independence. I considered getting a license of my own, but the cost of driving school was out of our budget at the time, so it really seemed like there was no way out of the situation I'd gotten myself into.

I wasn't prepared for the demands of caring for a house after years of apartment dwelling

Apartment life certainly has its drawbacks, but extra square footage comes with pitfalls, too.

We loved that our rental home gave us the newfound ability to stretch out and make noise without bothering each other. The downside, though, was that it was up to us to care for and maintain all that extra space.

It wasn't just the house, either — it was also our responsibility to tend to the adjoining garden, barn, and the attached horse stables. It was a full-time job's worth of work, and I started to miss the days when I could clean my whole apartment in just an afternoon.

Living without any takeout options was harder than I expected

Normally, I'm a proponent of cooking as much of my own food as possible, but I at least like to have the option of ordering in or eating out — especially on days full of chores and work.

Unfortunately, getting to the closest takeout restaurant took an hour round-trip, and delivery applications like Uber Eats didn't service our small village.

What's more, our dining options were severely limited compared to what we'd had in Berlin. I realized that I missed trying different cuisines and checking out new restaurants, and even when cooking,

I didn't have access to the same wide variety of ingredients that I'd had in the city. One example was sesame oil — if I wanted to use this pantry staple in a recipe, I'd have to go to a big city to find it.

Connecting with neighbors wasn't easy

Our village was extremely small — as of 2020, the population was under 400 — and many of the people I met were much older.

Needless to say, our rhythms and beliefs didn't always match up. We often had debates over everything from politics to local initiatives — like what to do with all the feral cats — and it wasn't always easy to argue my point in my then-limited French.

Since most folks in Berlin are fluent in English, I'd never been up against such a language barrier before. All that and more made it challenging to form true connections and further contributed to my feelings of isolation.

That said, there were things I missed about country life once I left

Despite all my frustrations, there were a few great things about living in the French countryside.

For starters, it really is beautiful, and being there allowed me to grow my own fruit and vegetables, forage wild blackberries in the forest, and perfect my French with the folks in town who were willing and patient enough to help me out.

After two years, we ended up moving to Lyon, the nearest city, because it offered the best of both worlds. At only 84 miles away, we'd have proximity to my husband's family and access to nature, plus all the advantages of living in a major city.

I'll always remember the beautiful memories from my time in the village — but I'll also always prefer to reminisce about them from an apartment in a city.