The One Who Got Away (And Why God Let Them)

After countless prayers, tears, and inner work, you finally meet someone who feels like the answer. They appear suddenly—unexpected, almost otherworldly—at a moment when you’ve surrendered, found wholeness, and stopped searching.

You meet them with no expectations, and yet, the connection is unlike anything you’ve ever known. The energy, the chemistry, the shared values, the uncanny synchronicities—they take your breath away. I can’t believe someone like this actually exists, you think. I can’t believe it’s finally my time.

From the very first conversation, it feels divine. You speak the same language. You move at the same frequency. You want the same kind of life. Time seems to slow. Your body feels safe. Your soul exhales. A deep, unshakable whisper says, This is it.

The days and weeks that follow only deepen the pull. The attraction is more than physical—it’s mental, emotional, spiritual, magnetic. Every interaction feels like bliss. Every moment leaves you wanting more. On paper, everything looks perfect.

And then—without warning—the energy shifts. They stop showing up the way they once did. Responses come slower. Excuses pile up. Plans fall through. Doubt creeps in. You wonder if you imagined it all. Did I misread the connection? Was I wrong? Or is it simply not the right time?

Your mind becomes a battleground—ego and soul fighting for dominance. You start working harder to keep them close. You plan your words. You give more. You try to prove your worth. You grip so tightly that the connection slips right through your fingers. Anxiety floods in to fill the space they’ve left behind.

You seek clarity outside yourself. Friends. Parents. Coworkers. Somewhere deep down, you hope someone will say, “I’ve been there—the beginning was magical, the middle was messy, the ending worked out.” You want proof of the fairytale. Proof of right person, wrong time.

But in your quietest moments, you remember the truth about love—the kind that lasts. It’s marked by ease. Flow. Commitment. And when you’re honest, this connection, however intoxicating, wasn’t any of those things from start to finish.

If this person couldn’t hold your love without triggering your deepest fears, they were indeed a soulmate—but not the kind who stays forever. They were the kind who arrives briefly, shakes your very core, and awakens parts of you you didn’t know were asleep.

Because it’s likely through them that old beliefs—I’m too much, I’m not enough, I’m not worthy—came roaring back. Each time they pulled away, you leaned in harder. Each time they withheld, you tried to orchestrate the closeness. They became the mirror that showed you every last fragment you still needed to heal.

And that is the gift. 

If God brought you someone who had so much of what you wanted, yet wasn’t ready or willing to choose you, then your true partner must be closer than you think. If God allowed this test, it means the lesson is meant to prepare you for the love that’s coming. If the connection ended, it’s because this person already fulfilled the role God sent them for. This was not the one who got away. This was the one who cleared your energy so the right one could walk in.