I’m a relationship expert – here’s the hidden resentment that’s the REAL reason half of weddings end in divorce
”And my kids, my husband, my work comes number one – I can get to it when I can get to it.”
Once you’re aware of your capacity and you can make adjustments, Dr Morgan said, you can show up in your relationships ”as more of a whole person”.
”For women, this whole concept of self-sacrificing for everyone else completely backfires.
”We do it in a way to sort of care for people we love the most […] – and then we end up being the worst versions of ourselves,” she told the hosts.
”We get grouchy, we lose our cool, we get resentful towards our partners.”
The episode, shared on Spotify, also saw the hosts and the expert chat about the importance of having your partner help you with the kids and around the house.
Dr. Morgan, who’s been in the relationship field for more than two decades, explained her personal problems after giving birth to her daughter – and dealing with the parenthood on her own.
”I just remember being like ‘I love you – but I don’t really like you right now. Any why am I doing everything?”’
Lauren added: ”I can honestly say – if Michael didn’t help me 50%, I don’t know if I would want to be married with kids.
”It’s really hard when you’re doing it all on your own, I can totally see how women get resentful – especially if they’re working and bringing in half the income.
”Because if a guy can’t even change a diaper… I mean, I have friends who are like ‘My husband won’t change a diaper, he won’t make a bottle’ – that would be a huge problem for me.”
Dr. Morgan said: ”I think a lot of new mums struggle to let go of the reigns a little bit for whatever reason – hormones, just a change.
”And so, they don’t involve their partners in the beginning – and then their partners don’t jump in enough.
”And then they [the mums] end up being the one carrying all that stuff.”
Although you may now have a role as a parent, it’s also essential to not forget that you are romantic partners – whether that means going on dates, spending alone time together or putting on that sexy piece of lingerie that’s been sitting forgotten for years.