I walked out my pal’s wedding when I found out she cheated with my ex & is the reason we split, but her man’s mad at ME
HAVING your partner betray your trust can be difficult to get over, especially if your best friend was also involved.
One woman shared the shocking news she learned the morning of her friend’s wedding.
In a Reddit post, the unnamed user explained the series of events that led to both her romantic break-up and the end of her friendship.
She explained that she had been dating her former partner for four years.
According to her, they “got serious enough where we starting planning for our future.”
“I thought we were pretty happy, but last year he dumped me pretty suddenly,” she said.
She recalled how she “tried to figure it out” but was brushed off by her ex.
The Redditor went to stay with her best friend and her fiancé, describing them as her “rocks.”
She explained how the pair had been “overwhelmingly supportive and loving.”
At this time, her friend had asked her to be her maid-of-honour, which she said was a “no-brainer.”
However, the morning of the wedding, the groom asked her to meet him for an early breakfast.
He informed her that the bride had admitted to having an affair with her boyfriend.
This eventually led to the breakdown of the original poster’s relationship.
The groom explained that his fiancé wanted to come clean to “start their marriage fresh.”
He revealed that he was forgiving her and just wanted to move forward.
After debating whether or not to tell her, he decided he would give her all the information.
“I guess he had expected me to forgive Stacy too because the affair was ‘so long ago,'” she said.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
However, the Redditor explained that “the opposite pretty much happened” and she walked out on the wedding.
This caused a “huge mess” for the happy couple as she was involved in most of the planning for the day.
She revealed that the pair had been “slandering” her online since their big day.
According to her, they were saying that she ruined “their once in a lifetime moment.”
Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“This sounds like a soap opera episode,” said one baffled reader.
“The bride along with the ex caused her heartbreak, f**k them,” wrote another person.
“Consequences suck, you screw your best friend over then ask her to be maid-of-honour?
“Bride is a heartless b***h and deserved to be embarrassed.”