I’m worried of a huge family feud if anyone discovers I’m sleeping with my uncle’s girlfriend
DEAR DEIDRE: THE sex I’m having with my uncle’s girlfriend is simply awesome but it is putting a strain on me because I’m worried that there will be a huge family feud if our secret gets out.
My uncle is my mum’s brother. He is divorced, having split up with his wife when she discovered he was cheating on her.
I’m a 26-year-old single man. My uncle’s 36 and his girlfriend is 32.
I live at home and she called round one evening because she wanted to talk to my mum.
My mum was out for the night but I could see she was at a loose end so I invited her in.
She seemed upset and opened up about her work stresses.
Then she confided that she was going through a bad patch with my uncle. I’ve always thought she was sexy, so when she cuddled up to me I was over the moon.
She said she wished my uncle was as considerate and caring. She seemed so sad and as we chatted I realised how much I liked her.
She then told me that she had always liked me.
She has an amazing body and we ended up having sex there and then.
It was the best experience ever, but straight after we both became awkward as the realisation of what we’d done set in. We were also aware my mum could be back at any moment.
Since that evening, she has told my mum that she is separating from my uncle. She found out he was cheating on her and apparently they haven’t had sex in months.
Since that first time, we’ve met often for romps in secret.
My family would never accept us being together. I love her but I think I’m out of my depth.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Yes you are. There’s little chance of a future together no matter how good the sex is.
If you were found out, the fall-out would be devastating for you and your family.
End it now because the longer this continues the more attached you’ll be.
There is nothing in it for you in the long term. You will tire of being her secret, so end it before you are discovered.
Tell her that she needs to resolve her relationship one way or the other and she can only do this when she is not preoccupied with you.
My support pack Your Lover Not Free? will help you think about this rationally.
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