I think about gay porn when having sex with my girlfriend – do I tell her?
DEAR DEIDRE: ANY man would be proud to have a “trophy” girlfriend like mine, but secretly I think I might be gay.
I’m 25. She’s 22 and a nurse. We met when I thought I’d broken my ankle during football training.
We got chatting and I asked her for her number.
We’ve been dating for eight months. As soon as she goes to work, though, I watch gay porn. I can’t stop looking at it.
When I have sex with my girlfriend, I think about the last scene I’ve watched online.
I love sex but dream of having it with a man, although I’ve never had that sort of experience before. I don’t know whether to tell her, but I know I’m not happy.
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DEIDRE SAYS: If you are not happy, it is only right to tell her – whether you are gay or not.
Leading her on and making her feel that this relationship can go the distance is not fair.
We all change a lot during our teens and twenties, and our sexuality is on a sliding scale.
Pornography is designed to hook viewers, so you may not have been interested in gay sex, but watching this is now giving you the ultimate thrill.
Once you are single, you’ll be free to explore the type of relationship you are looking for.
The LGBT Foundation (lgbt.foundation, 0345 3 30 30 30) is a charity that can help address any concerns you may have.
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