Why boys who cry make the BEST lovers, according to a sexpert, and the other secretly amazing signs to look out for

WHILE the clichés might tell you a ‘proper man’ should act the tough guy and never cry, one expert has revealed why they may not make the best lovers.

On last night’s episode of Love Island All Stars, viewers saw a different side to the blokes when Luca Bish broke down in tears after bombshell Tina Stinnes decided to couple up with Scott Thomas. 

And fans of the show were quick to praise him for showing his emotional side.

Taking to X, formerly known as Twitter, one fan raved: “Luca went from being a d**k to Tash for crying to become an intelligent self-aware man who is in touch with his emotions… in two years.” 

Another added: “Seeing Luca cry was deep. Didn’t ever think I’d be this sad for the guy.”

And according to love and relationship expert Marina Lazaris, author of Men Need Love Too, “men who cry are the best lovers.” 

She believes that there are subtle signs women should look for, to find a “Catch of a Lifetime, rather than just a day.”

She said: “The fine line between vulnerability and masculinity is the biggest challenge for men in today’s society. 

“Luca’s tears are gorgeous. Scenes of women comforting men with tenderness, such as kissing away their tears, have the potential to redefine intimacy on screen. 

“They challenge outdated notions of masculinity and celebrate vulnerability as internal strength to create deeper intimacy.

“Chasing the myth of needing a man with high status isn’t all bad.

“You might be lucky enough to end up with a man in a shiny new suit that’s a little tight around the biceps and a car that wakes the neighbours.” 

However, chasing this sort of lad could see you ‘couple up’ with someone who’ll “burn through women quickly and slip further away from finding the raw, genuine love” that you deserve.

Here in her own words, Marina reveals the top eight subtle signs to notice in a man which prove he is the best type of lover…

He Isn’t Afraid To Cry

Men who allow themselves to cry are capable of something rare and profound: they can make love rather than simply have sex.

Most men never transcend the “just sex” stage. 

Conditioned to approach sex like a checklist, they focus on the end result – performance, climax, and external validation – rather than the journey. 

In doing so, they rob themselves and their partners of the magic that lies in true intimacy. They remain trapped in their heads, disconnected from their bodies and emotions, which limits their ability to surrender and fully feel.

You cannot experience deep sexual intimacy with another if you cannot cry.

Men who are in touch with their emotions are better equipped to connect with a woman’s emotions.

If a man cannot “be” with his own sadness, he will run from hers, leaving her unfulfilled and unseen. 

Deep intimacy is born from truth, openness, and the courage to embrace every shade of the human experience – joy, pain, anger, and love.

He Doesn’t Need To Prove Masculinity 

He doesn’t feel the need to show off or perform. 

Instead, he’s fully present in the moment, focused on the connection and experience. 

His aim isn’t perfection but mutual enjoyment and intimacy.

True lovemaking requires letting go of performance anxiety, releasing the need to achieve, and immersing yourself in the moment. 

It’s about creating a tapestry of unpredictable, electrifying moments. 

It’s about anticipation, connection, and harmony – a dance of emotional and physical vulnerability that awakens the soul. 

Only men who can access their emotions can tune into this flow and truly connect with their partners.

He Is A Man Listens 

A great lover listens deeply and tunes into your emotions. 

He doesn’t just hear your words; he notices the subtle shifts in your tone, the emotions behind your expressions, and the things you don’t say. 

He creates a space where you feel heard and understood.

And beyond listening, he recognises and respects your emotional needs. When you say you’re “fine” but he senses sadness, he gently checks in. 

His emotional awareness creates a deeper bond and shows he truly cares.

His Persona Never Changes

A great lover knows who he is and is unapologetically real. 

He doesn’t wear masks or pretend to be something he’s not, which fosters trust and comfort in the relationship. 

His authenticity allows you to feel safe being your true self too.

A man who is grounded in himself exudes a calm and steady energy. 

He’s not easily thrown off by challenges or emotions, which makes him a reliable and comforting partner. 

His security allows you to relax and let go.

He Wants to Explore in the Bedroom

He approaches intimacy with curiosity, eager to explore and understand what makes you feel loved and cherished. 

His openness to learning and adapting ensures that your connection remains fresh and exciting.

He Makes You Feel Seen and Valued

Above all, a great lover makes you feel deeply valued. 

His actions consistently show that your happiness, comfort, and emotional well-being matter to him.

You feel cherished, respected, and truly loved in his presence.

But while bedroom antics are important, physical connection is, and he understands that true intimacy comes from emotional closeness. 

He nurtures the relationship by creating emotional safety, being vulnerable, and showing genuine care.

He Wants To Talk 

It is known that many men let things build up inside them because they feel they can’t show their ‘weaker’ side. 

But men who are present in their emotions are also present in their actions.

They don’t repress their anger or let it fester; they channel it healthily, turning it into passion, energy, and fire in the bedroom. 

They express their truth openly, without fear or avoidance, creating an environment where their partner feels safe to do the same.

Men Who Need Love, By Marina Lazaris is currently on sale on eBay and Amazon.