My moods are all over the place since I unexpectedly lost my dad
DEAR DEIDRE: MY moods are all over the place since my lovely dad died five months ago. One minute I can be happy and laughing and then sobbing hysterically the next.
I am a 35-year-old woman. My dad unexpectedly died due to complications of the flu.
It shocked me to the core at the time and to be honest it still does. I cry whenever I think about him. He was only 62.
My husband has been amazing, being with me all through the funeral and helping me with the legal side of things but I feel like I can’t actually talk to him about how I am feeling because I know all he will say is that my dad is no longer suffering.
He says I will be hurting him if I cry or feel sad. I feel like I can’t be happy anymore because it feels as though I don’t care about my dad when I do.
If I don’t speak to someone about how I feel soon I can see myself becoming depressed.
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s still very early days. You’ve experienced a terrible unexpected loss, so it is not surprising you’re finding it hard to cope.
Being happy sometimes doesn’t mean you will forget your dad. My support pack Coping With Bereavement will help you to navigate your grief and also contains sources of help.
Check out Sue Ryder for free counselling (www.sueryder.org) because talking to someone other than your husband will help.
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