I’m a professional love rat catcher & there’s 4 jobs cheaters are likely to have – they might look sexy but watch out
A PROFESSIONAL “love rat catcher” has spilled the beans on the jobs most likely to be held by cheaters.
Madeline Smith, who’s been in the business for three years, has conducted over 5,000 tests and exposed hundreds of unfaithful men along the way.
Her methods include reaching out to men on social media, and when they respond, she collects evidence through screenshots and passes it on to her clients – women who pay as little as £52 for the truth.
With requests pouring in, the 30-year-old revealed that police officers top her list of the most frequent cheaters.
This lines up with a survey by the affairs site Illicit Encounters, which also flagged police officers as some of the worst offenders.
She said: “It’s service people like firefighters, police officers, military personnel and paramedics that are mostly likely to cheat in my experience.
“I’ve probably caught over 100 police officers since I started doing this. That’s the most likely profession to cheat in my experience.
“They’re always looking for an opportunity and they’re only as loyal as their options or perceived options.”
After police officers, Madeline said personal trainers and gym-going guys were second most likely to cheat.
“If I see a certain kind of profile, I know that they’re a cheater,” she explained.
“Personal trainers and gym people fall into this category. The ones who post progress pictures or ones where they’re flexing their muscles.
“A gym picture here and there is not a big deal but when it’s their identity it’s a huge indicator.
“I find that when people post loads of photos of themselves travelling and they’re the only ones in the photos it’s a red flag.
“They’re probably with someone, most likely their significant other, but they don’t want anyone to know.
“Why? Because they’re probably cheating.”
Personal trainers were followed by business and sales professionals who travel a lot for conferences and therefore have “opportunities to cheat”, she explained.
They’ve got to be rough and ready for their jobs and it looks like they’re not different with their love lives
Jessica Leoni
“A lot of these people work in sales or travel for business,” she explained.
“Cheating gives them a sense of feeling invincible and I think they compartmentalise too much.
“Their family life is their family life and if they’re travelling they dissociate too much and it justifies their behaviour in their eyes.
“Those guys aren’t usually super active on social media. Their attention is focused on their jobs and social media doesn’t really do anything for that.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“Plus it’s easy to meet people to give them attention if they’re going out to dinners or bars for work a lot.”
Next up was lawyers who Madeline said adopted a “work hard, play hard” mentality.
This meant that they often took longer to reply so you have to place a “patient game” to catch them.
Doctors came in last place and were not high on Madeline’s list, something she puts down to the long hours they have to work.
She has only contacted a few, including several dermatologists and a few plastic surgeons, but found that they “are usually more at risk of cheating with the staff they’re working with”.
She spoke as Illicit Encounters – the UK’s biggest affairs website – released its top cheating professions of 2024.
In it, an astonishing 63% of police officers admitted to playing away in the last 12 months.
This represented a whopping 21% more than general builders (42%) who lay in second place, according to a poll by the website.
A lot of the infidelity and seeking outside of the relationship is about not having the right partner or not being happy with themselves
Jessica Leoni
Salespeople (37%), personal trainers (31%) and roofers (28%) lay in third, fourth and fifth places respectively, the affairs website found when it surveyed 1,400 members last month.
The most loyal profession was carpenters with less than one in 10 (9%) admitting to cheating.
They narrowly beat scientists (11%) and parking attendants (15%), according to the poll.
Responding to the finding, Jessica Leoni, the website’s resident sexpert, said: “They’ve got to be rough and ready for their jobs and it looks like they’re not different with their love lives.
“We always knew that police officers liked to play the field but even we were surprised by how many admitted to having an affair.
“We haven’t been able to say why. It might be down to them working shifts that gives them more opportunities to cheat.
“Whatever it is – two thirds of them are up for it, whether they’ve got a partner or not.”
Concluding the findings, Madeline, who lives in Los Angeles, California, explained why she thinks so many men cheat despite being in seemingly happy relationships.
“A lot of the infidelity and seeking outside of the relationship is about not having the right partner or not being happy with themselves,” she said.
“It can also be because people aren’t patient enough to find the right person or patient enough with themselves to realise that they need to do a lot of work.
What is an open relationship?
An open relationship means having more than one sexual partner at the same time.
Both parties in the relationship agree to be non-exclusive and one or both parties engages in sexual activities outside the relationship.
If one or both parties engage in sexual relationships without an agreement, this would be classed as cheating.
Other names for an open relationship are polyamory and consensual non-monogamy.
“They need to have a lot more emotional awareness because people who are content with themselves, even if their partner is cheating or doing something, the first thing they are going to do is take the time to heal and feel better about themselves.
“They are not going to go and find someone else straight away.
“I think in general people are severely emotionally stunted and men much more so. They look for an opportunity because they have historically never had to be accountable for their actions.
“Women usually fixate on one person to compensate for all their emotional discrepancies and try and fix them despite knowing deep down they’re unlikely to change.”