I was the other woman until he ghosted me…6 years later he came back and the sex was so tantric I missed the red flags
A WOMAN has revealed that she is having an affair with a married man.
The woman confessed that whilst she feels guilty about the infidelity, she doesn’t want it to stop, as she loves the passionate sex.
Not only this, but she described the married man as “extremely sexy” and as a result, claimed that it was “really hard” to ignore his advances.
Opening up about the situation, the woman took to social media to reveal all, leaving many open-mouthed.
Writing on Reddit on the r/offmychest thread, the anonymous woman titled her post ‘I’m having an affair with a married man.’
She then confessed: “Early 2018, after he’d been separated from his wife for some time, a guy reached out to me on social media and we started chatting.
“We got really close and after about six months, the “I love you’s” started.
“It was bliss, I thought it was love. About one month later, he ghosted me.”
The woman shared that after being ignored by her online love, she noticed that he and his wife had written a post online.
She continued: “He and his wife went to social media and made a very public announcement condemning any relationships they’d each fostered during the separation and said they were ready to continue their marriage. I was hurt but I understood.
“I had the suspicion, from the beginning, that it would happen. I couldn’t stand to see them together after all we’d talked about and confided in each other, so I unfollowed him and forgot about him for a while.”
But six years later, the woman confessed that she “randomly” thought of the man again and followed him on social media.
Almost immediately after, he sent her a message, as she added: “He said he’d been thinking of me through the years and had been longing to speak to me but couldn’t find me. It was our first time speaking again and it was great!
“We connected as if no time had passed since we last spoke. He said us finding each other again and talking each day made him the happiest he’d been in years and I felt the same.
“I told him what I’d felt after things ended all those years ago and he said he understood and then told me that he was separated from his wife again.
I definitely want to keep having sex with him, I love the time we share together, I don’t want any of it to stop
Reddit poster
“I told him I was sorry to hear it, wished him the best and let him know that I hoped they could reconcile soon. I set a boundary, things were friendly and we were both fine with that.
“However, like before, things started to progress in a romantic way. We find ourselves having a ton in common and talking for hours.
“It’s usually him saying really heartfelt things to me and since I find him extremely sexy, it’s been really hard for me to ignore and not reciprocate.”
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
But things quickly developed from just talking online, to meeting up and having sex, as the anonymous woman admitted: “Recently, we met and had sex. It was literally the most passionate, beautiful, tantric interaction I’ve ever had.
“He told me he loved me and he didn’t know what to do. I told him I loved him too but that I feel awful.”
We’re both very attractive/successful people so we could each likely have whomever we want but we’re magnetic with each other.
Reddit poster
Unsure of what to do, she continued: “I don’t know how to stop this. I really want him but the morality of it is just….not good.
“I definitely want to keep having sex with him, I love the time we share together, I don’t want any of it to stop.
“On the other hand, they live together and I’m afraid they’ll reconcile. They have children and recently, she’s started tagging him in her posts again.
“We’re both very attractive/successful people so we could each likely have whomever we want but we’re magnetic with each other.
“It feels like the more we see each other, the more we speak to each other, the deeper we go.”
REDDIT USERS REACT
Reddit users flocked to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation – with the overwhelmingly majority left appalled at the woman’s steamy confession.
One person said: “The man is a liar and cheater… how do you even find him attractive?
You need to leave married men alone
Reddit user
“It’s downright gross and desperate that he would sacrifice his family just to have some sex.”
Another wrote: “I mean… is there any scenario in which this doesn’t end horribly?
You’re delusional if you think you’re getting your fairytale ending
Reddit user
“You either get dumped again when he makes up with his wife, they divorce and you’re a homewrecker, or you just continue to be the other woman forever.”
A third commented: “You need to leave married men alone.
“It’s not cute and you look desperate. Find someone single.”
Meanwhile, someone else rudely remarked: “You’re just the sidepiece babe.
“You’re delusional if you think you’re getting your fairytale ending.”