I don’t discuss my marriage problems with friends & I don’t drink alcohol without him, it’s keeps our happy relationship
ELENA Cardone, a CEO dedicated to “building women up,” has shared her three key rules for a successful marriage.
In a recent TikTok video, the businesswoman, known as ‘elenacardoneofficial,’ opened up about how to keep a relationship strong, though not everyone agrees with her advice.
She recommends avoiding oversharing relationship issues with friends and being mindful of who you drink with, especially if you’re prone to being flirtatious.
Elena’s first tip is: “Don’t discuss your marital or relationship problems with your friends.”
She then goes on to explain her second and third rules.
Elena says: “Number two, don’t drink without your husband present if you know that you are touchy-feely, friendly, flirty.
“And number three, don’t flirt with anyone, period. That should just be the policy.
“Flirt with your husband. You should be flirting with your husband.
“If you’re not flirting with your husband, you both need to have a talk about how you both can be more creative in that aspect.
“The two of you have enough between you to fulfill each other in that way.”
Her video has gained over 500,000 views with many people rushing to the comments section to share their thoughts.
One wrote: “You have the WRONG friends if you can’t discuss issues with them.”
A second said: “If you can’t discuss with your closest friends…then you have the wrong friends IMO.
“I can go out and have drinks with my girls without issues, but I also don’t flirt.”
And a third added: “I don’t understand this narrative of telling women to not count on their friends with frustrations they may be feeling in their marriages.
“Like a good friend would give advice, not judge.”
However, others agreed with Elena and shared their additional thoughts of her tips.
Signs your relationship is heading for a divorce
- Persistent Communication Breakdowns
Constant misunderstandings, arguments, or a complete lack of meaningful conversation can signal deep-seated issues. - Emotional Distance
Feeling like roommates rather than partners, with a noticeable lack of intimacy or emotional connection. - Frequent Criticism and Contempt
Regularly criticising each other and showing contempt, such as sarcasm, eye-rolling, or mocking, can erode the relationship’s foundation. - Unresolved Conflicts
Recurrent arguments about the same issues without any resolution can indicate deeper incompatibilities. - Loss of Trust
Trust is crucial in any relationship. If it’s been broken and cannot be rebuilt, it may be a sign that the relationship is in trouble. - Different Life Goals
Significant differences in future aspirations, such as career goals, lifestyle choices, or family planning, can create insurmountable divides. - Avoidance
Preferring to spend time apart rather than together, whether through work, hobbies, or social activities, can indicate a desire to escape the relationship. - Lack of Support
Feeling unsupported, whether emotionally, financially, or practically, can lead to feelings of isolation and resentment. - Financial Disagreements
Constantly arguing about money, spending habits, or financial priorities can strain the relationship. - Infidelity
Whether physical or emotional, infidelity can be a major breach of trust and a sign of deeper issues in the relationship. - Changes in Affection
A noticeable decrease in affection, physical touch, or romantic gestures can indicate a loss of connection.
One wrote: “These should just be common sense.”
Whilst another added: “Talk to your spouse regarding issues; keep it light with friends—they are not your therapist, and they don’t know the whole story; they may give bad advice by accident.”
And someone else said: “Even if you have friends who are great to talk to…they aren’t the people you should be talking to about your and your spouse’s issues.”