My Sophie died in pain and was fully incontinent after popular party drug destroyed her life – I begged her to stop
A HEARTBROKEN mum has told of how the popular party drug “destroyed” her daughter’s life, leaving her in agony and incontinent before her tragic death at just 20.
Sophie Russell began taking the Class-B drug ketamine at the age of 18 in 2021 while out partying with friends.
Mum Tracy Marelli said the drug use began following the death of Sophie’s nanna – whom she was very close to – as a way to cope with the grief.
However, Sophie, who worked as a helper at a school’s breakfast and evening club, soon became reliant on the recreational drug – taking it every day at the height of her addiction.
The mum-of-two said her daughter went from taking the party drug with her friends on nights out to using ketamine by herself in her bedroom on a daily basis.
Tracy said she “begged” drug and alcohol services and doctors for help – but ultimately felt “let down by the whole system”.
The 48-year-old said Sophie was in “constant pain” and was fully incontinent at the time of her death – a side-effect of chronic ketamine useage is that it can affect the lining of the bladder.
Civil servant Tracy said Sophie wanted to curb her drug-use, but was physically unable to, admitting that ketamine was rife and very easy to purchase via apps on her phone.
Sophie tragically died on the morning of September 26 after she was found unresponsive at her dad’s house. A cause of death is yet to be determined.
Lincolnshire Coroner’s Court confirmed that the case is currently under investigation and the inquest is yet to be opened.
The drug claimed the life of Friends Actor Matthew Perry in 2023.
Now, Tracy wants to warn other young people to steer clear of this drug after ketamine “destroyed” her daughter’s life.
Tracy, from Lincoln, Lincolnshire, said: “Sophie had just turned 18 when her nanna passed away. She was very close to her nanna – and that’s where it all started with her.
“Around mid-November time in 2021 when she turned 18, she started going out with her friends and began taking ketamine while out partying as a lot of young people do unfortunately.
“I wasn’t aware that she was taking drugs at all.
“The first time I knew something was wrong, I kept ringing her up and she was slurring. She couldn’t get some of her words out. This was happening quite often.
She knew she was going to die from this but didn’t want to
Tracy Marelli
“I think I found out about her drug use when I found powder in her room. I asked her ‘why?’ and she said it takes her away from this world and it’s a happier, better place.
“I really don’t understand because she was so loved and looked after and how much to look forward to in life. I just didn’t get it.
“Once I found out about what was happening, I told her to stop taking it. We had that conversation but she clearly couldn’t.
“She said she found herself going out with her friends, having a good time partying, then found herself sat in her room, doing it on her own.
“She went from having a laugh to taking [it every day] on her own in her bedroom.”
Constant agony
Sophie, who had no underlying health issues, soon began experiencing severe pain, drastic weight loss, and bladder issues – a symptom of chronic use of the drug due to the lining of the bladder becoming so damaged and scarred that it shrinks.
Tracy said: “She would tell me about pain in her tummy, she would have hot water bottles constantly. I would take her to A&E then all of a sudden it would disappear.
“She was a size 14 when she was 18, and ended up being a size six when she passed away. She had lost so much weight.
“And the doctors didn’t seem to think there was anything wrong with this. She needed to go to the toilet all the time. She was in pull-ups for well over a year, she was fully incontinent.
I screamed and fell to the floor. This drug destroyed her. We loved each other big time but I was always worried about her
Tracy Marelli
“The amount of pain she was in, the more she took because it was the only thing that would help her pain.
“We live in a council estate and she said ketamine was everywhere. I remember her saying there were apps to get it. She could order it on her phone and go pick it up from somewhere.
“She told me one night that she knew she was going to die from this but didn’t want to.”
Tracy said she sought the help of drug and alcohol services where Sophie was placed in a seven-day detox – but said the treatment ‘wasn’t enough’.
Tracy said: “We sought help for it straight away. She wanted to stop but felt she physically couldn’t.
“She had drug support workers for a good year and a half but it just wasn’t happening.
“I begged the drug support worker before she died that she needed rehab for 30 days.
“She said ketamine was everywhere, she couldn’t get away from it. I feel she was let down by the whole system – doctors and drug support workers.
“She went to A&E the week before she died because she was experiencing severe back pain but she was sent home with antibiotics for a UTI or kidney infection.
“She needed hospitalising. I told them she was a ketamine addict but they didn’t ask any questions about it or link anything to that.”
The devastating side effects of ketamine
Ketamine is a very powerful anaesthetic that can cause serious harm.
Taking ketamine can be fatal, particularly if it is mixed with other drugs.
Physical health risks
In the short term, it can increase your heart rate and blood pressure, and make you feel sick.
It can also make you confused, agitated, delirious and disconnected from reality.
As it result in loss of feeling in your body, paralysis of the muscles and loss of touch with reality, taking ketamine can leave you vulnerable to hurting yourself or being hurt by others.
Because you don’t feel pain properly when you’ve recently taken the drug, you can injure yourself and not know you’ve done it.
The party drug can cause damage to your short and long term memory.
Prolonged use can also result in serious bladder problems, causing an urgent, frequent and painful need to pee and blood stained urine.
Although stopping using ketamine can help, sometimes the damage can be so serious that the bladder needs surgical repair or even removal.
The urinary tract, from the kidneys down to the bladder, can also be affected and you may be left incontinent – meaning you can’t hold in your pee.
Abdominal pain, sometimes called ‘K cramps’, have been reported by people who have taken ketamine for a long time.
Finally, evidence of liver damage due to regular, heavy ketamine use is emerging.
Mental health risks
The longer term effects of ketamine use can include flashbacks, memory loss and problems with concentration.
Regular use can cause depression and, occasionally, psychotic symptoms such as hallucinations.
Ketamine can also make existing mental health problems worse.
Medical grade ketamine is now being researched as a potential treatment for severe depression, but it is too early to know the results of this research.
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The day before her death, Sophie went to her dad’s home nearby for a bath to help alleviate her pain but didn’t wake up the following morning.
The family are still awaiting the toxicology results to determine the cause of Sophie’s death.
Tracy said: “I screamed and fell to the floor. This drug destroyed her. We loved each other big time but I was always worried about her.
“I get the young want to experiment but not with this drug. It should be a class-A drug. I would say to other people just don’t do it, it’s not worth the risk.
“There’s a lot of people in the same position as me. This world has gone crazy at the minute.
“There’s an awful lot of people on drugs now, people you don’t even think about. I don’t understand it.”
United Lincolnshire Hospitals NHS Trust was contacted for comment.
Sophie’s friends recently took on the Yorkshire three-peak challenge to raise money for the ‘Taking Action on Addiction Campaign’.
You can donate to their campaign here.
If you are experiencing problems with your use of ketamine, please see talktofrank.com/drug/ketamine