My boyfriend cheated on me with my aunt – she would ring me on purpose while they were having sex
A WOMAN revealed the affair her boyfriend had with her aunt right under her nose.
She recounted the upsetting discovery and explained how they continued to harass her after she uncovered the infidelity.
In her post, the unnamed Reddit user detailed the upsetting situation.
She revealed that her mum and aunt had moved in with her and her boyfriend.
According to the poster, her two relatives would go out and get drunk with her boyfriend on a regular basis.
“I didn’t mind at first but then my aunt started to get too close to him and I didn’t like it, I told her to stop and she blew up at me saying that she loved me and I’m delusional,” she said.
“I believed her, she was like my second mum and me and my ex were together for five years, I trusted him.”
However, one day while they were all drinking, the Reddit user’s aunt called her boyfriend to dance and he “grabbed her a**.”
She recalled how everyone told her it was nothing and brushed it off but she wasn’t convinced.
“I acted like all was fine and when he went to sleep I opened his messages on his phone [and] I saw everything,” she explained.
“How they were laughing at me all the time, [saying] that I’m stupid and naive, how they slept together while I was at work in my room.”
The woman said she “went into a full meltdown” and decided to move out.
However, her boyfriend would continue to visit her, upsetting her aunt.
“She would send me their nudes and sex videos and call me from his phone while having sex so I would hear her moan,” the poster recalled.
The woman described how most of her family members took her aunt’s side, even her own mum.
“My birthday came and no one cared, not even my mum, she said that she didn’t have money for my birthday but a day later, [she] threw a huge party for my aunt’s daughter,” she said.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
Thankfully, the woman got her happy ending despite still suffering panic attacks over the situation.
“Half a year passed and I met my now boyfriend who is amazing and he saved me from my family and my ex.”
Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“I’m sorry you went through this. Your family and ex are horrible and you deserve so much better. I’m glad you found someone who loves you and protects you,” wrote one reader.
“Sorry but your family is sick. You should get a restraining order if your ex comes back to hunt you again,” said another commenter.
“You need to go to therapy. Your ex cheated on you with your aunt and everyone in your family blamed you. There is just so much that someone can take by themself,” commented a third person.