My husband is sleeping with our neighbour AND my best mate – they’re both married but here’s how I found out the truth
A WOMAN has been left devastated after finding out her husband has been cheating on her with two different people.
The mum-of-two revealed she discovered his secret while he slept but he wasn’t sorry for his deception.
Taking to social media, she revealed how infidelity had been a part of their marriage for a while.
She was deployed at work and the couple were going through hardship during that time – leading her to message other men and send them explicit photos.
While she admits she broke the trust – she was adamant she didn’t meet anyone in person so it was no way near as bad as his actions.
After confessing her affair, the pair discussed separating and he said he was seeing someone while she was away.
But when she came back home the pair decided to work things through, or so she thought.
She decided to grab his Apple Watch when she discovered the person he had been seeing was one of their best friends.
The 25-year-old said: “I couldn’t sleep tonight and I had grabbed his watch to charge because he had kept saying he kept forgetting to charge it because he wants to wear it again.
“Something in me told me look and I wish I hadn’t. I tapped her name and started scrolling.
“The exchanges of I love yous ripped my heart out. Additionally, the way he was sexually talking with our neighbor had me feeling some type of way.
“These are both two females who are till this day in our everyday life and now I feel betrayed.”
She decided to confront her husband in the morning – asking if he had slept with either of the women when he confessed to sleeping with both.
He responded that he planned to cheat after she sent explicit photos to other men.
Her husband said: “Yes. I told you whatever you do that I would do tenfold. You knew I was heartbroken.”
Now she was left devastated as her marriage was seemingly falling apart.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
The post had gone viral on Reddit and hundreds of people took to the comments to share their thoughts.
One person wrote: “You’re both cheaters in each other’s eyes, what’s left to save? Just split up and try to be good co-parents.”
Another commented: “You think the first time you caught him was the first time he cheated? Nope.”
“This is always unforgivable. If you let him off the hook he will just be better about hiding it. They always cheat again. Say nothing to him and talk to your divorce attorney tomorrow. Good luck,” penned a third.
Meanwhile a fourth said: “You pack a bag and go stay with a friend. Get up early and start talking with lawyers. Only solution.”
“Sounds like his love for you died a while ago. Unlucky. Either accept it and stay with him or get out of there,” claimed a fifth.
Someone else added: “I never understand how someone who’s “heartbroken” over getting cheated on then turns around and sleeps with another married person for revenge.”
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