I caught my husband cheating in our car with our baby in the back – I’m fuming but he says it’s fine as they were asleep
A WOMAN has been left in a state of rage after catching her husband having sex in the car with his mistress while their baby was in the backseat.
She revealed they had been married for ten years and had three children together, but she knew he had been unfaithful before.
She revealed the first affair happened over two years ago and they split up for some time to focus on themselves while getting couples therapy.
During that time, they ended up conceiving their third child and the pair worked together to fix their marriage.
She explained: “Until very recently, my husband had seemed very committed to fixing what he had destroyed in our marriage. He jumped through all of the hoops, or I thought he had.
“Believe me, I read the books and I followed the rules and I made all of the demands. And he did everything he was asked to do.”
She admitted she still struggled to trust him completely but was working on it in therapy, but she was feeling incredibly suspicious recently and couldn’t ignore her gut.
The mum said: “It was like he was being too nice to me, too attentive, too willing to be of service for whatever I wanted or needed. That was actually the first thing that tipped me off. He was being too good of a husband.”
She said the change in character was driving her crazy and eventually went out to follow him after he left the house with their youngest.
That’s when she discovered a horrific scene and realised the affair with his mistress was back on.
“I followed him when he took our 9-month-old baby with him to go run several household errands under the guise of allowing me to relax, she added.
“I found him with the woman he had previously cheated on me with, her on top of him in the driver’s seat having sex… and our baby was in the backseat!”
In a fit of rage, she said she banged on the door to startle them and they both stopped having sex.
She then headed to the baby to take him out of the car and drive home – but her husband stopped her saying it wasn’t safe for her to drive in the state she was in.
Trying to calm her down, he said: “The baby was asleep and in the rear-facing car seat and has no clue what’s going on, it’s no different than when we have sex in our bedroom with the baby asleep in our room.”
She revealed she went to see her therapist after it happened who tried to talk her down from her anger, as she revealed she wanted to ‘destroy his life.’
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
Venting to Reddit the woman received thousands of comments and everyone agreed she should lawyer up and divorce him.
One person wrote: “He took the baby so you wouldn’t be suspicious because taking a baby with you to do that isn’t something anyone would think of. Get divorced. Been there. My baby from that scenario is now grown. I did get divorced. I don’t regret it.”
Another commented: “Jesus Christ the relationship is over. I am so sorry.”
“Sis, this is why we NEVER recommend getting back together with a cheater. They ALWAYS cheat again,” penned a third.
Meanwhile a fourth said: “That is horrific. I am so sorry.”
“This is why we don’t stay with partners who cheat on us,” claimed a fifth.
Someone else added: “I literally got chills. I don’t know how you didn’t drag them both right then & there.”
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