My sister confessed to having an affair with my fiance before his death – how I found out left me feeling sick
A GRIEVING woman was repulsed when she discovered that her sister had been having an affair with her fiance before his death.
The 25-year-old revealed her fiance, 27, was killed in a car crash just months before their wedding.
Since his death, she has been drinking herself to sleep and staying in bed to avoid talking to anyone.
The devastated woman said her friends had to convince her to go out after almost four weeks of staying in her house.
“But when I came back home and walked into the living room, that’s when I saw my sister (22F) in my wedding dress, music playing in the background while she was looking at herself in the mirror with obvious tears down her face,” she said, writing on Reddit.
“When she noticed me immediately, she screamed at me to get out but I stood my ground and refused until she had explained herself.
“That’s when she broke down and told me that before my fiancé’s death, she and him had been having an affair and that they were planning on running away together before the wedding.”
The woman said her sister was desperate to explain more but she ran to her room and started having a panic attack.
“I feel sick even writing this to be honest, I don’t wanna look at her,” she said.
“I don’t want anything to do with her and all I’ve been doing is crying all day, this year has honestly been the worst in my entire life and I seriously don’t know what to do.”
She described her fiance and sister as being “very close” before his tragic passing.
Many commenters shared their sympathy and tried to convince the woman that her sister was lying.
One person said she may have had a “crush” on her fiance and had fantasies of them being together, while another suggested that she just wanted attention.
“You said that they had become more friendly and that’s normal if you are about to become family,” a Redditor said.
“He may have honestly believed that this was all it was.
“He might not have even noticed that she had feelings for him because his attention was for you, not her. And that’s what I think all of this is.
“She’s jealous that you had what she wanted so she’s trying to hurt you and taint your memories.”
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
Others told the woman that she needs to find out for herself if her sister can’t “produce the receipts” for her claims.
“You can always go online and see his records through his cellphone provider,” one person said.
“If you have his social media account information, look there as well. I would definitely suggest setting some healthy boundaries with your sister though.”
“I’d also say that regardless if OPs [original poster’s] sister is lying or not OP now knows her sister’s true colours and should stay far FAR away from her after all this,” another wrote.
“Sister is toxic af [as f***k] and evil to do this. Cut those people out of your life ASAP.”