Kate Lawler shouldn’t be shamed for sleeping with ‘over 50’ men – I could do it 11 times a day – my body needs it
WHEN it comes to casual sex, Tracy Kiss is all for it.
The 37-year-old single mum of two is all about being intimate with someone without the pressure of a relationship, and she believes that regular connections are key to her happiness.
While she’s not into one-night stands, Tracy finds that the more sexual experiences she has with someone, the better it gets.
She says: “If casual sex means being intimate without the label of a partner, then yeah, I’m all for it.
“I don’t do one-night stands, though – they’re usually over too quickly, and you don’t get much out of them.
“I’m not into relationships, but it’s great when you get to know someone, because you can’t always know what someone likes the first time around.
“I think casual sex is wonderful in the terms of being intimate with someone that you have no intention of marrying.
“Then the sex is great and it’s impossible for me to not have it twice a day, and then on Sundays at least five times a day. It’s only polite.
“Especially with the cost of living, you need to stay in.
“And you can save on the energy bills by doing it to keep warm.
“You won’t need a gym membership either as you’re helping each other to stay fit.”
That’s why Tracy praised Kate Lawler for revealing that she loved having casual sex before she got married to Martin Bojtos.
Kate, 44, told how she loved the single life and never felt any pressure to get married or have children.
Speaking on the It Can’t Just Be Me podcast with Anna Richardson, she said: ‘I’ve been in love a few times but I loved being single and just having casual sex with people, I probably did ghost a few guys at the time.
‘I don’t know how many people I’ve slept with but I know it’s over 50 but my twin sister has only slept with like seven.’
And Tracy completely agrees.
This woman is on television saying she loves having orgasms and can go 11 times a day, now my boyfriend will expect the same from me
Tracy Kiss
The content creator previously appeared on E4’s The Sex Clinic back in 2020 for her sky high sex drive.
But after appearing on the show Tracy previously revealed to Fabulous that she was trolled for admitting that she was a sex addict who could do 11 times a day.
She said: “I have been terribly attacked by women on social media and posted to my Instagram Stories to discuss the injustice.
“I was told on TV that I am perfectly normal and my high libido as a woman is nothing to be ashamed of.
“They think, ‘this woman is on television saying she loves having orgasms and can go 11 times a day, now my boyfriend will expect the same from me’ or ‘she looks easy, I don’t want to be associated with her’.”
The sustainable gift shop owner continues: “I believe that you should have experience in life to know what you want.
“I think if you can do it twice a day – morning and bedtime – minimum then that’s great.
“Every time you go to bed with your partner, you would want to interact with them. You’d want to kiss them and cuddle and be affectionate.”
So many people are crying into their pillows at night and going without orgasms or happiness or that butterfly feeling in your stomach
Tracy Kiss
According to a study by Archives of Sexual Behaviour, People in their 20s and 30s have sex the most often, while older adults are usually less sexually active.
People in their 20s have sex an average of more than 80 times a year, or slightly more than once every five days, whilst by the time they get to the age of 45, people have sex an average of 60 times per year.
Tracy, from Buckinghamshire, says: “That’s a depressing number. That means it’s basically twice a month.
“No wonder why you see so many people walking down the street and nearly breaking their necks to look at someone pretty.
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“Not having sex so often can really crush you.
“I wouldn’t be able to cope with that.
“I think if you’re in a long-term relationship and it falls to twice a month, leave that relationship.
“You literally have your youth and your life just once.
It’s so short and sweet.
“And so many people are crying into their pillows at night and going without orgasms or happiness or that butterfly feeling in your stomach.
“I think why sentence yourself to sadness.
“If you have really genuine connections, like a ‘friend with benefits’ kind of scenario, then do it as much as possible. That’s an incredible situation to be in.
“That’s the way forward to having a happy, healthy life.
“And then when you’re in a nursing home twice a month, that’s probably manageable then.
“But before then it should be criminal.”
Tracy has never shared a bed with someone without being intimate either.
I find that if I don’t receive pleasure at night that I’m unable to unwind, relax and sleep as soundly
Tracy Kiss
She says: “Even if they’re upset, you would console them and then that would lead to a kind of intimacy.
“It may not be crazy, mind-blowing, or passionate, but it would be tender and delicate.
“I’ve never shared a bed with someone that I then wasn’t intimate with, even if I’ve had a row, and even if they’re tired, there’s still that connection.”
Tracy, who has 1.2 million Instagram followers, previously wrote a post on how masturbation is “a natural and normal part of life and something we need not be embarrassed nor ashamed about.”
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Seek Professional Help: Consulting a therapist who specialises in sexual addiction can be very beneficial. Cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) and other therapeutic approaches can help address underlying issues and develop healthier coping mechanisms.
Join Support Groups: Connecting with others who are experiencing similar challenges can provide support and understanding. Groups such as Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) offer a safe space to share experiences and gain insights.
Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to avoid triggers and situations that may lead to addictive behaviours. This might include limiting internet usage, avoiding certain places, or ending unhealthy relationships.
Develop Healthy Habits: Engage in activities that promote well-being and fulfilment, such as exercise, hobbies, or volunteering. These can help redirect energy towards positive outlets.
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Education: Learning about sex addiction can help you understand your condition better and recognise patterns and triggers. Knowledge is a powerful tool in managing addiction.
Accountability: Having a trusted friend or sponsor to check in with can provide accountability and support. This person can help you stay on track with your recovery goals.
Avoid Isolation: Isolation can exacerbate addictive behaviours. Try to maintain social connections and seek out healthy relationships that offer support and companionship.
Set Realistic Goals: Recovery is a journey and setting small, achievable goals can help you stay motivated and track your progress.
Medication: In some cases, medication may be prescribed to help manage symptoms of sex addiction, particularly if there are co-occurring mental health conditions such as depression or anxiety.
Tracy, who has since split from her partner, wrote: “Personally I masturbate 2-3x per day, basically whenever I’m in bed on days when I haven’t been sexually intimate with my partner and need a sexual release.
“I realise that this may seem like an extremely high amount that most women couldn’t match let alone dream of discussing or confessing.”
Despite admitting that her preferred method of pleasure is sexual intercourse, she added that masturbation is a “key part” of her day and keeps her “smiling from ear to ear”.
Tracy said that she has explored in the past if she is a “sex addict” after having partners who could not match her stamina in the bedroom – but just found she has a high sex drive.
She explained: “I find that if I don’t receive pleasure at night that I’m unable to unwind, relax and sleep as soundly as I have pent up sexual tension that keeps me alert much like drinking a coffee or energy drink.”