I met my 55-year-old husband in uni but now I want to leave him & our 2 kids for a younger man – I need more excitement
A WOMAN has confessed to wanting to dump her husband because of their age-gap.
Taking to the Closet Confessions podcast the 28-year-old revealed her marriage to her 55-year-old husband was crumbling before her very eyes.
Co-hosts of the podcast author and journalist, Candice Brathwaite, and actress and online personality, Coco Sarel, share their confessions as well as their online fans.
Confessing to the pair, the woman revealed: “I just don’t know how to deal with all these feelings, I’m overwhelmed.”
She revealed she and her husband had been together for five years after they met while she was in college, and had two children together – but things weren’t going well.
The mum revealed they instantly hit it off when they first met and she loved that he would treat her to nice gifts constantly, even moving her to the UK so they could be together.
But fast-forward to today, she says she’s met a younger man who’s a total ‘gentleman’ and much closer to her own age at 33.
“So kind, so respectful, and we’ve been talking every day, I’m beginning to question everything, my marriage, my life, I feel like I need more adventure,” she said.
And that wasn’t all, the young woman said she was in desperate need of more romance and sex than she was getting in her marriage.
She revealed any time she and her husband were intimate – she was thinking of the other man.
“It gets me going,” she confessed adding that she hated her current life and was questioning if she got married at too young an age.
“I love my kids, these two are precious, but I just don’t know anymore,” the mum continued.
Proving their thoughts on the woman’s seemingly failed marriage, Candice and Coco asked if she even wanted the marriage to work if she had already clocked out of the relationship.
“Monkey bar swinging from one relationship to the next is detrimental,” said Candice.
While Coco recommended staying friends with her new man while she focused on herself.
“You’re basically replaying what you did at college, you wanted to be bought stuff, feel good, leave the country you were in,” added Candice.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
Now you want to be made to feel good, sex, the romance, it’s all appealing but now you need to take a moment.”
They also questioned if she would want to leave if the new guy wasn’t on the scene.
While she complained about her husband being older, the pair were quick to point out he’d always been older and this shouldn’t be a shock to her.