I’m destroyed after another woman rang me in labour with my boyfriend’s baby
DEAR DEIDRE: I received a call from a distressed woman saying she’d just gone into labour with my boyfriend’s baby and did I know where he was.
She called me his “business partner”, not his girlfriend. She’d found my number through our joint business.
I met my partner when he wanted some help with the launch of a new beer from his microbrewery. I work for an events company.
We hit it off at our first meeting. He’s 47 and I’m 34.
The following six months, we met up regularly and he told me that he was married with a toddler but was separated.
His launch day went like clockwork and he got some big orders. He was delighted.
We had a drink to celebrate. Our chat quickly turned into flirting and then he offered me a lift home in his cab.
When we got to my place, he got out of the cab too and came into my flat. He kissed me as if he’d had pent-up feelings for the whole time. I felt the same.
Our spark exploded with his touch. The sex was incredible. We started dating, set up a business together and within three months, I was pregnant. Our daughter was born last year.
He’s always working so insists that we keep our separate homes. The phone call from the other woman was two weeks ago. Things began to fall into place. I realised I’d been living with a serial cheat.
I called the woman back to ask about their relationship. She told me her baby was their second and they’d been together three years.
When I said who I was, she was livid but then admitted he’s said he still had a good relationship with his ex-wife – me!
I’m destroyed. He’ll soon be a daddy to five children under six years of age.
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DEIDRE SAYS: This guy is a womaniser who has manipulated women for his own gain all of his life. It’s unlikely he’ll change.
You fell for his charms just like those before you and innocent children are in the midst of it all.
He has to be a responsible parent though and is obliged to pay for these children financially and preferably, will be there for them emotionally too.
You can find out more through the Government’s website (gov.uk/child-maintenance-service, 0800 171 2345).
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