I’m a hot gran – young men always try to date me and shower me with compliments but they actually turn me off
A SELF-confessed cougar who loves to date younger men has revealed what it’s really like.
Tara Gen is proudly in her fifties but prefers to date men decades younger – but it’s not always smooth sailing for the gran.
Having previously dated men younger than her sons, who are 30 and 24, Tara has plenty of experience under her belt and doesn’t care what trolls think about her dating life.
But in a recent video she shared on social media the gran explained that some things do turn her off about the generation below her.
Being referred to as “Stacey’s mom” or “Stifler’s mom” is a huge no-no for Tara, even though they’re usually meant as compliments.
Both characters, the first from the famous Fountains of Wayne song and the second from American Pie, are known to be attractive older women, much like Tara.
She also revealed she hates when younger men want her to be their “sugar cougar” and shower them in gifts, she revealed.
Because of this, the gran confessed she usually keeps her love of younger men “on the down low”, and even has to make sure she’s not friends with the parents of her romantic partners.
She explained she’s not looking for a husband and just wants to have fun with her young lovers.
This came after someone commented on a previous video and wrote: “For the young guys, just hit and run. These women are damaged goods.”
But the gran had no time for haters and explained that she’s not looking for love.
In fact, it’s the men who keep chasing her.
“Strangely enough, I can’t get rid of them once I’ve dated them they won’t go away,” she said.
Tara explained she can tell if she’s going to hit it off with someone instantly, but they often get the wrong impression and she ends up having to break it off with them.
She confessed she doesn’t want to waste her time with someone she’s not compatible with, unlike the younger men she dates.
The blonde beauty is so popular online that she was even contacted by a casting company to appear on a reality show about cougar moms.
Though she’s received plenty of opportunities, it hasn’t always been sunshine and rainbows for her.
Since she’s become popular online, Tara has received inappropriate messages.
Among the worst are unsolicited naked photos, or men saying that they know where she lives and would come to assault her.
“I don’t think I’m controversial, so for them to go out of their way to be mean or rude is ridiculous.
“I’m really down to Earth and, at the end of the day, I’m all about my family,” she previously told The US Sun.
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- No-habiting: When you choose to wait longer to move in with your partner because you value your personal space.
- Fiscal Attraction: When you won’t settle for less and you’re seeking a match who is financially secure and who you find attractive.
- Rejuve-dating: When you cast away the blues and grow from past experiences so you can fully embrace the future of your dating journey.
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- Loud-dating: Cutting to the chase, being open and to the point with what you want so you don’t waste your time.
- Marmalading: When you literally put your other half ‘before anything else’, much like Britain’s most beloved bear’s love for marmalade.
- Digital Ex-pression: The stage after a break-up when you are done grieving and turn to social media to share how you are healing to confidently get back out on the dating scene.
- Fine-wining: Proactively finding people to date who are older than you and who’ve aged just like a fine wine.