I cheated on my fiance with his brother & now I’m planning on swapping the grooms so my wedding can still take place
A 25-YEAR-OLD woman has confessed to cheating on her fiancé with his older brother and is now reconsidering her upcoming wedding.
She met the brothers, Hugo, 26, and Michael, 28, in middle school when she was 13.
Despite having a soft spot for both of them, Michael was the first to flirt with her.
However, the woman, who has chosen to remain anonymous, thought Michael was “too old for her,” so she decided to pursue a relationship with Hugo instead.
Fast forward to the present, she has realised that she lost feelings for Hugo “a long time ago.”
Her infidelity, she admits, was “the final push she needed to come to this realisation.”
Confused at what to do, the young woman has taken to Reddit to seek advice from others and ask people for their thoughts.
In a lengthy post, she wrote: “A little backstory on how we met: I met Hugo and his brother in middle school when I was 13.
“I got to know Michael beforehand and got along with him much better.
“He was 16 and flirted with me a lot, but I told him he was too old for me.
“He was very sad about it but said that if I later married his brother, I would still be part of the family.
“Hugo and Michael both gave me their numbers, leaving it up to me to decide which of them I wanted to get to know better.
“I chose Hugo because we didn’t have such a huge age difference as Michael and I did, although I actually wanted Michael.
“So Hugo and I got to know each other better, met more often, and got together when I was 15 and he was 16.
“We were in a relationship for years, but my heart was with Michael the whole time.
“I put it off because I didn’t want to hurt Hugo; he really does everything for me, and I can feel how much he loves me.
We talked, and eventually, one thing led to another, and we went to the toilets together
Anonymous woman, 25
“I’ve met Michael from time to time when I was at Hugo’s house or at family gatherings, and it gave me the impression that he wanted me as much as I wanted him.
“Of course, that wasn’t good at all, and I’m aware of that. I went on living like this for years, and when Hugo proposed to me in September last year, I was so relieved.
“I thought that now I would only love Hugo and forget about Michael or that he wouldn’t be as present in my mind anymore. Wrong.
“Hugo and Michael’s aunt got married for the third time last week and the whole family was there, including Michael. And that’s when it happened.
Distancing herself
“Hugo talked to his family members all evening, and I was kind of alone.
“But that was okay with me because I already knew everyone well, and at that point, I had quite a headache from the loud music.
“So I distanced myself from the revellers and, of course, met Michael.
“He wanted to keep me company, and I agreed.
Michael and I want to be together and finally be happy after all these years
Anonymous woman, 25
“We talked, and eventually, one thing led to another, and we went to the toilets together. By the way, we were both still sober when I cheated, so we really wanted it.
“Writing this, I realise how messed up everything is.
“After Michael and I had sex, we were both very shocked at first. I said that it was not a mistake but exactly what I had wanted for years – him.
“Michael confessed his love to me and told me how frustrating it was for him over the years, knowing that his brother was with the woman he loved.
Confessions
“Michael and I want to be together and finally be happy after all these years.
“I haven’t told Hugo anything about my infidelity yet, and neither has Michael.
“Michael and I are now considering cancelling the wedding and gently telling Hugo.
“I don’t want to leave him standing at the altar and say no in front of the whole family.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“I would like to spare him that humiliation. It’s bad enough that I cheated on him with his brother.
“I’ve finally realised that I haven’t had any feelings for Hugo for a long time. I don’t want to continue with my life like this anymore. It’s not fair to Hugo either.
“So my question now is: How can Michael and I tell Hugo? How do I tell Hugo that I love Michael?
“What are Michael and I supposed to do, and what are we going to do about the wedding now? I don’t want to marry Hugo.
You and Michael are absolutely awful human beings. You deserve everything that’s coming to you.
Reddit comment
“Can the wedding take place and instead I marry Michael? Would something like that work?
“I’m pretty desperate right now because I finally want to be with Michael, but I don’t want to cheat on Hugo again.”
Her post naturally gained a lot of attention, with many people rushing to the comments section to share their thoughts.
Many couldn’t believe that she was even considering if the wedding could take place.
Backlash
Others called her “stupid” for being in such a situation.
One wrote: “You and Michael are absolutely awful human beings. You deserve everything that’s coming to you.
“Do you seriously think you could just swap him in for Hugo at the wedding and there’ll be no backlash?
“I’d be shocked if anyone in the family even thinks about you or Michael after this. I hope it was worth it, because your relationship with Michael will crash and burn.
“He’s not as great a guy as you think he is, and you’re terrible yourself. You two cheaters deserve each other.”
Another added: “There is no “gently” telling Hugo that his fiancée cheated on him with his brother.
“This is the worst nightmare territory and will likely rip their family apart for a good long while.”
A third said: “That’s the family gathering at Christmas ruined then.”
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