I got a brutal anonymous letter two DAYS before my wedding calling me materialistic – I’m now spiralling
A BRIDE has shared her horror after receiving an anonymous letter in the post just two days before her wedding.
She shared a photo of the typed message, which slammed her for her ‘materialistic’ registry gift list.
Typed in capital letters, the strongly-worded note read: ARE YOU S***ING ME?
“THAT’S A RATHER EXPENSIVE REGISTRY LIST DON’T YOU THINK?
The letter then listed five verses from the Bible, which spoke about greed and loving money.
One from Luke 12:15 read: “Then he said to them, ‘Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions’.”
The note continued: “God is ok with people having stuff. He is not ok with stuff having people.
“When wealth, and material things become the focus of our life’s, we are elevating them to status of an idol [sic].
“Things we worship instead of God. Things that we focus more on than our God.
“When your more concerned with your new toy than going to church, that’s a problem.
“When your bank account number is more important than giving a few of those dollars to help the person that is struggling to make ends meet, that is a problem.
“God blesses us so that we can bless other and show the love of God.”
The bride was completely shocked by the note and said she was trying to “not spiral.”
She shared on Reddit: “After a very emotionally and financially taxing wedding planning era, I felt I was finally turning the corner today into excitement for our wedding on Saturday when I recieved this letter in the mail, no return address and no real discernable information for who may have sent it.
“The only clue is on the postage cancelation stamp, I can deduce it came from a post office not far from my hometown but in a populated area from which a lot of our guests hail from, and about an hour from where we live.
“It was addressed only to me (bride) and not my fiancé.
“I have been wracking my brain for who could have possibly sent it but am coming up short.
“Any advice on how to not spiral??”
When is it tacky to ask for money for your wedding - and how can I ask without offending people?
By Josie Griffiths, Fabulous deputy digital editor and bride-to-be
Josie Griffiths said: “As someone who lives in an already cluttered 38 square metre flat, gifts aren’t exactly at the top of the list for our wedding day in August.
“All we want is money towards our honeymoon – and we’re already expecting backlash from the older generations, but what can you do?
“I would love an air fryer or coffee machine for the kitchen, but we simply don’t have the space.
“I think there’s a few keys when asking for cash to stop it looking tacky – which this bride has very much got wrong.
“One – the money is for our honeymoon, not to cover the cost of the wedding, we are absolutely paying for that ourselves.
“Two – like any gift, it’s totally optional, and people can decide what they’re comfortable spending themselves. When I went to a wedding abroad in my mid-20s, I didn’t contribute to their honeymoon fund and I still feel comfortable with my decision, the trip to Spain already cost me and my partner a lot.
“Under no circumstances should you ever invoice people for a specific amount. You might have relatives who are more generous than expected, which would of course be lovely, but your guests are just that and they shouldn’t have to pay for the food, decorations and entertainment you’ve chosen.
“Three – make it look and feel like a registry – there are some great websites where guests can donate cash for cocktails, room upgrades and experiences abroad, which make it feel a lot more personal than a bank account number and sort code. People like to know where their money’s going and then you can send proper thank yous with pics of you enjoying whatever they’ve paid towards.
“As for how to ask, some people do poems but personally I hate them, they sound childish and you wouldn’t knock one up to ask your mate to transfer you £100 towards your trip away, so it sounds odd here.
“Something like this, on your formal invite or wedding website, would be perfect: The most important thing to us is that you are able to celebrate with us on our wedding day. However, if you wish to give a gift, we will gratefully accept a small contribution towards our honeymoon.
“Good luck!”
Many people were shocked by the angry note, and told her to ignore it.
One wrote: “Cussing and quoting the Bible all in the same document is WILD.”
Another added: “The ramblings of a lunatic…throw it in the garbage and don’t think about it again.
“Who sends poison pen letters these days?”
A third commented: “Yeah, this is bizarre and inappropriate and reflects 100% on the writer — not on you.
“As they say: the best revenge is a life well-lived. And/or in this case, a wedding well-enjoyed.
“Put this out of your head and don’t let this rude idiot take up any more of your thoughts.”
Meanwhile, one person joked: “I’d frame it and put it on the gift table lmao.”