My man has been sexting our entire marriage – I was open when he started OnlyFans but it was Snapchat that gave it away
A WOMAN has revealed that her husband has been cheating on her and sexting strangers for the entirety of their marriage.
The mother confessed that she has been married to her husband for the past 11 years, and whilst she was open when he joined OnlyFans, it was his Snapchat that gave away his infidelity.
But the stay-at-home mother shared her uncertainty on what to do in this situation, explaining how she doesn’t have any friends or finances to leave the relationship.
Posting on social media, the confused woman opened up on the situation, leaving many open-mouthed.
Posting on Reddit, on the r/TwoHotTakes thread, the anonymous woman wrote under the username @Living_a_nightmare12 and titled her post ‘Just found out my husband of 11 years has been cheating/sexting with strangers our entire marriage‘
She then added: ‘Everyone thinks he is so great, hell so did I. I can’t tell anyone because I don’t want to hurt him. So I am coming here to get some advice.’
The woman, 39, shared that she met her husband, 38, at high school and they now have two children together.
But her husband’s actions have left her devastated, as she wrote: “A week ago, I found out that my husband has been cheating on me throughout our 11-year marriage.
“The cheating consists of sexting with strangers on Snapchat. As he says “it’s just strangers that he had common interests with nothing physical” but all these relationships were all sexual – they weren’t talking about anything but sex, sending pictures and videos of each other.
“I grew up in a divorced family where my father had cheated on my mum, and he knows how much trust and honesty means to me and how much cheating disgusts me.
“We were together a long time before we married because that commitment had been so scary for me.
“I never wanted to go through something like my mum. I witnessed her pain through young eyes and never wanted that for my future family.
“I thought I had found that with my best friend and believed we were on the same page, I never would ever question his loyalty and faithfulness to me. I would have bet everything I had on it.
“I have known him over half my life, and this is a complete shock and has turned my world literally upside down.
“I have read all these stories about men cheating on their wives and never, not ever thought that would be me. And that’s what makes this so hard, and really unbelievable for me.
“I have given up so much on becoming a SAHM because it’s what we both wanted for our children.”
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
The woman explained that her husband started OnlyFans in an attempt to make a bit of spare cash, as she added: “He had started in OnlyFans, and I was completely open to it. Why not make a little money on the side?
“I am an open person and have never given him any reason not to be the same way with me.
I found a lot more than expected, email accounts I didn’t know about, a Snapchat account I didn’t know about
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“One of his posts alerted me and gave me a weird feeling inside. It went along the lines of ‘if you’re bored come chat with me’. I know that wasn’t something he would be getting paid for so I didn’t understand why he would be chatting with people for free.”
But it was his Snapchat account that really revealed his deceitful actions, as she continued: “I got on his phone that night for the first time I had done this since we married.
“I found a lot more than expected, email accounts I didn’t know about, a Snapchat account I didn’t know about, and all these accounts dated back a long time and so did the conversation and I read them all.”
As a result, she cried: “I am literally broken! I had to do a lot of thinking and spoke to no one, which is why I am reaching out here for some help.
“I feel ashamed and embarrassed to tell anyone. I also don’t want my husband to look like a bad person. Love isn’t a switch that I can just switch off.”
I now realise the price of giving up everything for your family
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Unsure what to do, the woman penned: “As I thought about my options, divorce was there for sure, leaving him was there. Then the reality of those decisions became clearer. Where would I go?
“I don’t make the money, what would I do? My family does not live close, and I am a SAHM who no longer has any close friends but my husband and until now I never needed anything more.
“I now realise the price of giving up everything for your family, the downside anyway. My husband begged me not to leave and said he would do whatever it took to make things right.”
As a result, she shared her cunning plan, as she confessed: “So, I Googled what to do and saw and read about marriage contracts. I came up with one stating if I stayed what was expected and also giving me space.
“I also put a clause in there stating that if he were to cheat on me again that he would lose his rights to our children and he would pay half of his income to me for alimony among other things.
“One of the huge reasons for staying is my children, I don’t want them to be tossed between two parents. I also don’t want to miss out on anything in their lives and if I left my husband I would surely miss out on things.
“I am reaching out for help and understanding because I have no one and feel completely broken, any advice is wanted and needed. Am I doing the right thing?”
REDDIT USERS REACT
Reddit users flocked to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation – with many stunned by the woman’s confession.
Your husband has been cheating on you your entire marriage and you don’t want to hurt him? Yikes
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One person said: “You don’t want to hurt him? He’s a piece of s**t. Document everything!
“And start setting yourself up with an escape plan. Get copies of all your documents and see if you can have access to any funds.”
Another added: “Sorry, but why do you not want to hurt him? He’s hurt you!”
A third commented: “Your husband has been cheating on you your entire marriage and you don’t want to hurt him? Yikes.”
Whilst someone else chimed in: “You don’t want to hurt him. He has no regard for you or your marriage/family/children. Time to go.”