My husband is fighting for custody of his love child but I’ve already told him I don’t want the kid
A WOMAN has been left considering a divorce after her husband told her he wanted to fight for custody of his love child.
In the post on Reddit, she explained that she and her spouse have been married for nine years, and it was in 2001 that they found out he was being sued for child support.
“Turns out my husband had an affair shortly after we were married,” she wrote.
“It nearly ended our marriage, but we went to counseling together and I agreed to stay in the marriage.”
However, she did have some provisions, including that her husband should get a second job so “that his child support payments did not affect our household budget”.
She also stressed that “at no point in time would I ever consider having a relationship with this child”.
“If he wanted to pursue one with them, fine,” she added.
“But I have absolutely zero interest in this kid.”
While she made her position clear, her husband has been “getting to know his kid over the past couple years”, during supervised visitations “once or twice a month” with a “social worker present”.
He recently came to her and admitted there’s been some “baby mama drama” going on.
“Apparently, she has to self-surrender in May and is going to be incarcerated for 8 months,” she continued.
“My husband told me that he needed to take custody while his affair partner is locked up, otherwise the kid would have to go to their grandparents who basically live on the opposite coast from us.
“Their kid doesn’t want to have to change schools or be so far away from their friends, dad and mum (she will be doing her time fairly local to us).”
When her husband told her that, she “got up and left the house”.
“I went to the grocery store on the corner and grabbed a copy of our area’s apartment guide went back home and handed it to him,” she added.
When he asked if she was serious, she said she felt the same as she did three years beforehand, to which he stated he didn’t think it was fair “considering the extenuating circumstances”.
“I told him I don’t care about the circumstances,” she said.
“His kid is not welcome in my home.
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THERE are two child benefit rates, one for the eldest child and another for younger children.
- You get £21.15 per week for your eldest or only child (£1099.80 a year)
- You get £14 for each of your other children (£728 per year, per child)
- You get the money for each child under 16 (or under 20 if they stay in approved education or training)
- If families split up, how much you’ll get for each child depends on how you claim.
- If you have 2 children and one stays with you and the other stays with your ex-partner, you’ll both get £21.15 a week for each child.
- If one parent claims for all the children, you get £21.15 for the eldest and £14 for each younger child.
- Only one household can claim for each child
“If he wanted to take custody I will grant him an amicable divorce, but I am not changing my mind.
“I am not taking care of some other chick’s kid.”
People were quick to comment on the post, but the woman responded as they told her she should be the one to file for divorce if that’s what she wants.
“No. I will not,” she stated.
“I am not the one who created this situation. If my husband wants to pursue custody, I have told him I will not fight it.
“I will grant him an amicable divorce and let him be on his way.
“However, I am not going to waste my own time, energy, and money to do so!
“He is responsible for getting his own ducks in a row for the situation he created.
“That includes being the one to go through the headache of filing.”
And the majority of those weighing in on the situation in the comments suggested they should just call time on their relationship.
“Why are you still with him?” one wrote.
“In no way do I think it’s your responsibility to raise this child. But it is his responsibility. And this poor kid didn’t ask for any of it.
“The whole situation would be happier and healthier if y’all just split up”.
“I think you should divorce him and move on with your life,” another said.
“Not your job to take care of the kid.”
“She should do it the first time she found out about cheating, it would save her from so much drama that came after,” someone else wrote.