My lover’s wife found out about affair and has branded me a ‘man eater’ to the whole neighbourhood
DEAR DEIDRE: THE wife of my lover has found out about our affair and put up posters around the neighbourhood with a grainy photo of me.
It says: “Warning — this woman will eat your husband alive.”
I’m mortified but my lover insists we should continue our secret sex hook-ups.
So far, no one has identified me but I feel pretty sick.
As soon as I saw the first poster on a lamppost, I ripped it down. That night I went around the streets tearing up at least another 15.
She got the photo from his phone. Thankfully it was such poor quality that it’s not obviously me.
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I really could do without the trouble, but I am smitten with him and believe him when he says he will leave her.
He’s 41 and I’m 33. I know you will say that I’m a fool but he’s adamant that once the younger of his two daughters finishes primary school next year, and turns 11, they will be old enough for him to leave his wife.
We met at our local athletics club and after one gruelling training session we all went down the pub.
He deliberately let his knee rest on the inside of mine while we were sitting opposite each other. We sat like that while everyone else chatted unaware.
I don’t think I have ever felt so aroused before.
Since that night we have been meeting for sex.
He is an incredible man and has reassured me his wife believes his affair is over.
For the last few weeks, the only time I have seen him is at training but I’m longing to invite him over.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Stick to the training.
This is a man who wants to keep you as his carefree hook-up and still enjoy his wholesome family life.
He says he’ll leave when his youngest is at secondary school, then you’ll find there will be an important birthday, or his wife will have health problems, or he’ll be worried about how his business is doing.
What I am trying to say is you are throwing away your precious time on a man who already has a family and no intention of leaving.
Please don’t start sleeping with him again.
Socialise with other friends and focus on meeting someone who is available for a relationship.
My support pack Your Lover Not Free will help you think about this.