I’m a ‘diagnosed psychopath’ and I’m impossible to date – I have flings with hot men and have never been in love
A WOMAN has revealed what it’s really like dating as a ‘diagnosed psychopath’, from never falling in love to why she’d never date a man with less money than her.
Although the term gets thrown around a lot, people who have so-called ‘psychopathic’ personality traits are usually diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD).
In the UK, patients cannot be diagnosed as a psychopath, and it isn’t a term that is recognised by the mental health act anymore.
Those exhibiting certain characteristics including lack of empathy, impulsivity, and superficial charm may be diagnosed with other mental health conditions, including ASPD.
Vic, 22, who was diagnosed with ASPD at 19 but refers to herself as a psychopath, often shares videos online explaining what dating is really like for her.
Recently, the content creator, who describes herself as a ‘diagnosed psychopath’ took to TikTok (@victhepath) to reveal how dating works for her.
In the now viral video, she confessed she prefers short flings and “hook-up culture” to long-term relationships and never really loved either of her exes.
Speaking to her 260,000 followers, she claimed she enjoyed “the company” of her previous partners, but didn’t want to peruse anything more serious because she got “bored”.
In fact, she stated the relationships were more like a “pretty heavy obsessed”, at least from her end.
“I don’t date so much as I engage in hookup culture,” she expalined in the viral video.
“I love a good friends-with-benefits situation, but when it comes to something more serious, I do not have the bandwidth for that.”
Vic confessed her attitude towards dating is pretty “shallow” and her “extremely high standards” stop her from going for more guys.
So, what are the qualities she looks for in a man?
Well, any potential beaus need to be incredibly attractive, Vic explained, since she doesn’t ever like to be the most good looking one in a relationship.
Money is also a must, and she only looks for men who can pay for dates and “take care of her financially”.
Vic’s list of prerequisites for the men she dates also includes a good personality who will plan interesting things for them to do.
“I cannot go out on a date with somebody that I find boring, even if it is for free food,” she said.
If men ever disrespect Vic they’re sure to be kicked to the curb, as she revealed she’ll happily cut them off in an instant if she ever feels disrespected.
Despite all of this, Vic said she still has a lot to offer potential flames, mostly because of her “interesting” personality that will keep them on their toes.
She said: “You will never be bored with me. I like to have interesting conversations. I’m also very chill. As long as you respect me, we have no issues.”
As long as guys aren’t “needy” they’re in with a shot of getting to know her, she explained.
What’s it like dating some with a personality disorder?
Dr Sham Singh, a psychiatrist at WINIT Clinic said told Metro.co.uk that most people with ASPD live “fairly normal lives.”
“The one-dimensional way that ASPD is stigmatised, namely, being referred to as a “psychopath” is unfair to people who have this personality disorder,” he added.
And for anyone dating someone with ASPD, he suggested being mindful of the condition and how self-aware they are.
Help for mental health
If you, or anyone you know, needs help dealing with mental health problems, the following organisations provide support.
The following are free to contact and confidential:
- Samaritans, www.samaritans.org, 116 123, jo@samartiands.org.uk
- CALM (the leading movement against suicide in men) www.thecalmzone.net, 0800 585 858
- Papyrus (prevention of young suicide) www.papyrus-uk.org, 0800 068 41 41
- Shout (for support of all mental health) www.giveusashout.org/get-help/, text 85258 to start a conversation
Mind, www.mind.org, provide information about types of mental health problems and where to get help for them. Email info@mind.org.uk or call the infoline on 0300 123 3393 (UK landline calls are charged at local rates, and charges from mobile phones will vary).
YoungMinds run a free, confidential parents helpline on 0808 802 5544 for parents or carers worried about how a child or young person is feeling or behaving. The website has a chat option too.
Rethink Mental Illness, www.rethink.org, gives advice and information service offers practical advice on a wide range of topics such as The Mental Health Act, social care, welfare benefits, and carers rights. Use its website or call 0300 5000 927 (calls are charged at your local rate).
Heads Together, www.headstogether.org.uk, is the a mental health initiative spearheaded by The Royal Foundation of The Prince and Princess of Wales.
15 Relationship red flags to look out for
Red flags are warning signs that indicate unhealthy or manipulative behaviour. When you encounter relationship red flags, it’s a good time to pause and reflect on the dynamic you really share with that person.
- Overly controlling behaviour
- Lack of trust
- Feeling low self-esteem
- Physical, emotional, or mental abuse
- Substance abuse
- Narcissism
- Anger management issues
- Codependency
- Inability to resolve conflict
- Constant jealousy
- Gaslighting
- Lack of emotional intelligence
- Negatively affecting your relationship with family and friends
- Inability to communicate openly
- Lack of social connection or friends
For more advice and support, Relate is available: “Whether it’s your relationship with a partner, a child, a family member or anyone else – we help everyone to build better relationships.”