I’m married but got pregnant after cheating – I have no clue who the dad is, people are stunned by my man’s reaction
THIS woman caused controversy online after admitting to getting pregnant with someone else’s baby when she cheated on her husband.
Nokwazi Ntombela, 33, posted a shocking video where she admits to sleeping with someone behind her partner’s back.
Filming herself for her TikTok and YouTube channels, Nokwazi tells the story of how she had a one-night stand with a stranger and then fell pregnant.
Originally from Randburg, South Africa, Nokwazi explains her reasoning to why she did what she did.
Going on a girl’s weekend away, she met a mysterious man and a had a one-night stand with him.
Hoping that actions instead wouldn’t catch up with her, she reveals how she later discovered that she fell pregnant soon after the one night stand.
With her not knowing who the biological father of the child could be, the couple have stayed together in spite of their issues.
She told how she came to tell her husband about the situation and how the couple have worked together to discuss the problem.
This is outrageous!
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Believing that her husband has forgiven her, the couple are attempting to forget the cheating scandal and put everything behind them.
Posting the shocking series to her TikTok page she has since amassed hundreds and thousands of views with many users taking to the comments.
One astonished user said: “This is outrageous!”
While a second added: “This series has me gripped!”
Infidelity Statistics in the UK
Cheating is one of the most commonly cited reasons for divorce in the UK as reported by the Office of National Statistics – but who is doing it and how are the trends changing?
However, whilst many may assume that it’s usually the man who’s being unfaithful, this trend is rapidly changing, according to Global Investigations.
Data gathered by the National Opinion Research Centre’s General Social Survey found that the percentage of married women having affairs rose almost 40 per cent from 1990 to 2010 reaching 14.7%, while the number of men admitting to extramarital affairs held constant at around 22%.
Whilst the infidelity statistics in the UK show the percentage of men having affairs while married remains higher, in unmarried relationships, males and females are now engaging in infidelity at similar rates.
For instance, a 2017 study found that 57% of males and 54% of females admitted to committing infidelity in one or more of their relationships.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
Once a cheater, always a cheater?
We’ve all heard of this saying – but is it true? Unfortunately, the data found by The Sun earlier paints a worrying picture.
In a survey performed by YouGov, a whopping one in five British adults admitted to having had an affair – and only half have stopped at one.
20% have had three or more and 8% have had five or more.