My fiancé bought my engagement ring from Temu for £29 – he’s mad because I don’t want it & even told me to buy my own
PLNETY of women dream of the day their partner will finally pop the question.
And although it’s not the most important thing, the ring they choose can really make or break the proposal.
One woman thought she had her dream ring when her boyfriend of three years asked her to marry him, but that feeling soured when she realised the truth about her bling.
It turns out her soon-to-be husband cheaped out on the ring and decided to get it from the popular online bargain site Temu, rather than a jeweller – but she had no idea at first.
“I really liked the ring when I first saw it and my friends and family all think it is stunning. It’s an oval cut with ‘diamonds’ across the band, she explained on Reddit.
After the proposal, the woman explained she did ask her fiance where he bought the ring, but he didn’t tell her any information other than he got it for a “great deal.”
“I didn’t think anything of it until yesterday we were in bed and I was asked him if it was diamond or moissanite, mainly out of curiosity, I don’t have a preference by the way.
“He said he didn’t know and would have to look it up. When I glanced over at his phone, he was in the Temu app,” she explained.
Obviously confused why he was looking at the Temu app for the information, she asked if her ring was from there and was met with silence from her partner.
“So I asked again and he responded with something like ‘does it matter?’ and left the room and ended up sleeping on the couch,” she said.
After spending the rest of the night confused, she then decided to work it out for herself and downloaded the app to try and find her ring.
Eventually, she cam across one that looked “identical” to the one on her finger – and it was priced at just $38 (£29).
The cost of the ring might not have bothered the woman so much if she didn’t know her partner was on “good money” and could have “shelled out some money for a ring better than one on Temu.”
Since they still hadn’t spoke about the ring since that night, the couple ended up having another conversation about the bling.
“He doesn’t see eye to eye with me on my concerns about the ring and says he did research and that it was highly rated,” she updated Reddit users.
“He says if the ring breaks he will replace it, but didn’t say it’d be higher quality,” she added.
The woman wondered if buying her a cheap ring was some sort of test of her loyalty, but her fiance insisted it was not.
“Well that really set him off. ‘What kind of person do you think I am? You think I’m a cheapskate? A liar? You obviously think really poorly of me… but STILL he never gave me a reason,” she said.
Then he tried to solve the problem and told his bride-to-be should could simply buy her own ring if she hated it so much.
“He said he’s sick of talking about this and it’s ‘water under the bridge’ now,” she said.
After sharing the story on social media some suggest the woman was a bit of a gold digger for wanting more out of her man, but she shut them down.
“When we met I was making more than him and often paying for his things, his high paying job is a recent development. I have my own money and don’t need his,” she slammed.
Why is Temu so cheap?
TEMU exploded onto the scene in late 2022, with people all over social media raving about the low prices.
The company is a Chinese-owned digital marketplace – essentially an online shopping app where people are connected to the retailer directly while the app takes care of the shipping element.
The frenzy over the app is not completely unfounded either as it offers a wide variety of products, including fashion, make-up, electronics and furniture.
According to a report from the US House Select Committee on the Chinese Communist Party, Temu takes advantage of a trade loophole that allows the company to ship duty-free goods directly to the US.
The loophole is called the de minimis exception and it means they can ship goods valued up to $800 (£643) to the US without it being inspected or taxed by US customs.
Temu connects customers directly to manufacturers and only manages how the items are sent to customers.
It means Chinese vendors can essentially sell their products directly to customers and ship it without building a network of warehouses across the globe.
By doing this, they cut down on huge costs and ensure the product itself isn’t marked up extra.
While many of the products seen on the Temu app are from brands with extensive, original collections, many more are dupes of designer brands.
Meanwhile, others were more focused on the way her man reacted to her enquires about the ring.
“Girl, f*ck the ring for now and just consider how he handles the issue. Which is, he won’t! He defects, he turns the tables, he tries to leave … and when HE’S done then he excepts you to drop it.”
A second agreed: “This will be your future if you marry him. He’s showing you exactly who he is. He’s cheap and now expects you to buy your own ring… WITH YOUR OWN MONEY???”
And another wrote: “Girl, run! He is still gaslighting you and showing you exactly what to expect in a marriage with him.
“Go, buy yourself a pretty, good quality ring, show him happily what ring you got yourself and then with that same smile on your face dump him.”
How much should you spend on an engagement ring?
New analysis by engagement ring expert, 77 Diamonds, reveals that the average person across Britain should be spending almost £10k on an engagement ring if they plan to pop the question in 2025.
It’s often said that when buying an engagement ring, a good rule of thumb is that it should cost the equivalent of three months salary.
77 Diamonds has analysed average gross salary data in Great Britain from the Office for National Statistics* to understand exactly what three months worth of salary currently comes to, and reveal the areas of the country in which proposers might be buying the most expensive rings.
- London: £12,916
- The South East: £10,587
- East of England: £10,162
- Scotland: £9,011
- North West: £8,793
- West Midlands: £8,693
- South West: £8,601
- East Midlands: £8,499
- Yorkshire and the Humber: £8,490
- Wales: £8,160
- North West: £8,139