How do I stop my boss from constantly making sexist comments to me at work?
DEAR DEIDRE: HOW do I stop my boss from constantly making sexist comments to me at work?
I love my job and the last thing I want is to lose it. But the constant harassment is really starting to make me uncomfortable and I dread going in for shifts.
I’m a 43-year-old woman and work as a hotel bar manager.
A few months ago I started having problems with the hotel manager.
He had never paid me much attention in the past but recently he’s been hovering around the bar trying to make conversation.
At first, I didn’t think anything of it, but as time passed his behaviour has made me increasingly uncomfortable.
It started with a few comments here and there about my appearance.
Initially, it was only about my hair and make-up. But eventually it escalated to snide remarks about my body and physique.
One day he even told me I shouldn’t get too close or I would “feel his third leg”.
No matter how many times I’ve asked him to stop, he laughs it off.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry to hear you are experiencing such sexist comments at work, it’s no wonder you feel so uncomfortable. His behaviour is completely inappropriate and needs to be challenged.
Contact his boss or your HR department, to get advice on how to handle it. And keep a note of any incidents for evidence.
If this isn’t an option contact Acas (acas.org.uk, 0300 123 1100) who give workplace advice.
