March 2010 April 2010 May 2010 June 2010 July 2010
August 2010
September 2010 October 2010
November 2010
December 2010
January 2011
February 2011 March 2011 April 2011 May 2011 June 2011 July 2011 August 2011 September 2011 October 2011 November 2011 December 2011 January 2012 February 2012 March 2012 April 2012 May 2012 June 2012 July 2012 August 2012 September 2012 October 2012 November 2012 December 2012 January 2013 February 2013 March 2013 April 2013 May 2013 June 2013 July 2013 August 2013 September 2013 October 2013 November 2013 December 2013 January 2014 February 2014 March 2014 April 2014 May 2014 June 2014 July 2014 August 2014 September 2014 October 2014 November 2014 December 2014 January 2015 February 2015 March 2015 April 2015 May 2015 June 2015 July 2015 August 2015 September 2015 October 2015 November 2015 December 2015 January 2016 February 2016 March 2016 April 2016 May 2016 June 2016 July 2016 August 2016 September 2016 October 2016 November 2016 December 2016 January 2017 February 2017 March 2017 April 2017 May 2017 June 2017 July 2017 August 2017 September 2017 October 2017 November 2017 December 2017 January 2018 February 2018 March 2018 April 2018 May 2018 June 2018 July 2018 August 2018 September 2018 October 2018 November 2018 December 2018 January 2019 February 2019 March 2019 April 2019 May 2019 June 2019 July 2019 August 2019 September 2019 October 2019 November 2019 December 2019 January 2020 February 2020 March 2020 April 2020 May 2020 June 2020 July 2020 August 2020 September 2020 October 2020 November 2020 December 2020 January 2021 February 2021 March 2021 April 2021 May 2021 June 2021 July 2021 August 2021 September 2021 October 2021 November 2021 December 2021 January 2022 February 2022 March 2022 April 2022 May 2022 June 2022 July 2022 August 2022 September 2022 October 2022 November 2022 December 2022 January 2023 February 2023 March 2023 April 2023 May 2023 June 2023 July 2023 August 2023 September 2023 October 2023 November 2023 December 2023 January 2024 February 2024 March 2024
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29
30
31
News Every Day |

Ask Amy: Former in-law’s contact riles hurt feelings

Ask Amy: Former in-law’s contact riles hurt feelings

Dear Amy: I had a wonderful relationship with my in-laws while my ex-husband and I were married. However, following our divorce, he and I no longer speak.

He’s also asked me NOT to reach out or talk to his family.

His sister and his father have respected his wishes and have never reached out to me. Honestly, I found this very hurtful.

His mother called a few times over the past year, mostly around the holidays, and each time it was difficult and painful to talk to her.

I never initiated any communication.

At Christmas she left me a voicemail crying about how much she missed me and missed having her family together. She implied that I wasn’t doing well, and that hurt my feelings, too.

I did not call her back and have not talked to her since.

Around Easter, she sent a card, noting how much she missed me and how much she loved me.

Again, I did not respond, but she did ask my son during a visit if I ever received a card from her. She did the same on Mother’s Day.

I find it to be very hurtful.

I also want to lash out AT her and let her know just exactly how much pain, abuse and toxic behavior her son put me through.

I know it’s not right to do that, but I don’t know how to handle this.

Should I continue to ignore the cards? Send them back, marked “return to sender”,

or should I send her a response, politely telling her goodbye?

– Upset Ex

Dear Ex: It hurt when your former father and sister-in-law respected your ex’s demand and didn’t contact you. Your former mother-in-law is defying her son’s demand. This hurts, too.

It’s like the song says: Love hurts. Lost love hurts more.

Your former mother-in-law may be aware of what a toxic jerk her son is, and this is her way of trying to make amends. Her life might have been better with you on the scene to smooth over the family’s rough dynamic. She might have missed opportunities to defy him and defend you, and she is trying to make up for that now.

Plus, you were part of her family, and she is experiencing a loss that looms very large for her.

You seem indifferent to the possibility that your lack of response is punishing her.

You should respond now by sending her a card, thanking her for years of friendship and for being a good grandparent to your child.

You could include a gentle goodbye: “Hearing from you makes me feel sad, but your son has asked that I not be in touch with your family, and (aside from this note) I have made a decision not to defy him. That’s why I haven’t responded to you. I’m going to say goodbye with appreciation. Know that I am doing well, and I wish you all the very best.”


Dear Amy: We live in the South, where many people have swimming pools (we don’t).

We’ve known our neighbor “Ned” ever since we moved in, seven years ago. He is middle-aged and single. We’re friendly, but not close friends.

He has a nice pool, and obviously this is a huge draw for our kids, who are 7 and 11.

Ned has been super-nice about his pool and has let the kids know that they are welcome to use it, any time.

Now that our daughter is 11, she wants to go over there by herself. Ned says that’s fine and he’ll keep an eye on her while she’s there.

This doesn’t feel right, but our daughter is pressuring us, and we’re not sure what to do.

– Puzzled Parents

Dear Puzzled: That’s a solid “no.” You do not want your children hanging out at an adult neighbor’s house without a parent also being physically present.

They should also never go to a private swimming pool without your direct supervision, and because “Ned” seems unable or unwilling to establish boundaries, you must. There are affordable above-ground pools; you should consider investing in one for your own yard.


Dear Amy: “Tired of Hosting” hosted playdates at her house, and other parents never reciprocated.

This happened to me, too. In our upscale neighborhood, I realize in retrospect that I was a much younger mother and honestly – I was used as a babysitting and nanny service. I wish I’d had a backbone.

– Still Tired

Dear Tired: I assume the kids you hosted are grateful – even if their parents aren’t.

(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)

©2023 Amy Dickinson. Distributed by Tribune Content Agency, LLC.

Москва

Коронационное убежище и Дом призрения Баева отреставрируют в столице

Top 10 Love Affair Movies of the 2000s and 2010s

The 10 Intense New Action Movies on Netflix That Left Me on the Edge of My Seat!

I was diagnosed with cancer aged 39… you are never too rich, too famous or too young, says Dr Philippa Kaye

Top 5 Websites to Watch FREE Movies - TV Shows (No Sign up!)

Ria.city






Read also

Guest recipes with Tonia Buxton

Broward 7A-6A boys basketball first team, second team, honorable mention, coach of the year

Military kills 212 terrorists as court frees 313 B’Haram suspects

News, articles, comments, with a minute-by-minute update, now on Today24.pro

News Every Day

Top 10 Emmanuelle Seigner Movies

Today24.pro — latest news 24/7. You can add your news instantly now — here


News Every Day

Top 10 Love Affair Movies of the 2000s and 2010s



Sports today


Новости тенниса
ATP

Хачанов победил Черундоло и пробился в 1/8 финала турнира ATP в Майами



Спорт в России и мире
Москва

GeekVape в сотрудничестве с Absolute Racing выиграла чемпионат в категории GT3



All sports news today





Sports in Russia today

Москва

«Радио Зенит» – информационный партнер форума «Мы вместе. Спорт»


Новости России

Game News

Пробный запуск вампирского градостроя Vampire Legacy: City Builder


Russian.city


Москва

Итоги краш-теста современных декоративных красок


Губернаторы России
Спартак

Metaratings: "Спартак" может уволить Абаскаля по ходу сезона, клуб ищет тренера


"Известия": на Дмитровском шоссе нашли оружейный схрон террористов из "Крокуса"

Благовещение – 2024: дата, история и традиции светлого праздника

Москва возглавила 33 национальных рейтинга городов и регионов РФ в 2023 году

Заказать недорогой ремонт шкафов купе в Москве и Московской области


Творческая встреча с искателем приключений состоится в Симферополе

«Мое сердце у твоих ног»: Сергей Шнуров признался в симпатии одной из участниц «Новой Фабрики звезд»

Шапки женские вязаные на Wildberries, 2024 — новый цвет от 392 руб. (модель 466)

Эффект Карабаса: Почему Моргенштерн взялся спасать молодых коллег от музыкального лейбла Rhymes Music


Виктория Азаренко вышла в полуфинал турнира WTA-1000 в Майами

Российская теннисистка Калинская покинула WTA-1000 из-за проблем со здоровьем

Хачанов: хочу вернуться в топ-10 ATP

Теннисист Медведев вышел в полуфинал турнира в Майами, обыграв Харри



Архитектурные доминанты округов Москвы

Шапки женские вязаные на Wildberries, 2024 — новый цвет от 392 руб. (модель 466)

Пассажир рейса Москва — Пермь попал в реанимацию

Перенос дат II этапа культурного проекта «Классика: история и современность» в Дмитрове


Всем по местам: в России назвали топ благополучных регионов

На Алтае подвели итоги работы центра одаренных детей за 2023 год

Чемпионат по зимнему плаванию пройдет в Пскове

Лавров заявил, что сфер сотрудничества России и Запада практически не осталось


Домклик: средний размер первоначального взноса по ипотеке вырос в Кирово-Чепецке до 36,5% в феврале

Полетная программа из Оренбурга включит в себя 15 городов

Новое начало: Куба снова становится «большим ухом Москвы»?

Педагог-психолог Ольга Трунова стала победителем профессионального конкурса в Воскресенске



Путин в России и мире






Персональные новости Russian.city
Shaman

Shaman направит деньги от концерта в Ессентуках пострадавшим в "Крокусе"



News Every Day

Top 10 Emmanuelle Seigner Movies




Friends of Today24

Музыкальные новости

Персональные новости