I’m a sexpert – here’s why some people like to experience pain during sex
A SEXPERT has lifted the lid on the fascinating reason that some people like to experience pain in the bedroom.
Dr. Nicole McNichols, who is a Human Sexuality Professor who goes by the name “The Sex Professor”, explained there’s a specific scientific explanation that means some lovers equate pain with pleasure.
Dr. Nicole McNichols opened up on the raunchy subject matter, as she asked: “Did you know that pleasure and pain are intricately connected?”
In the video posted to her Instagram account @nicole_thesexprofessor, the doctor continued to state some important boundaries and rules, before going into the deeper meaning.
She said: “Inflicting pain during sex should always be consensual and shouldn’t be done if it’s something you don’t enjoy.
“But for many people, certain types of pain really can ‘hurt so good’,” she said, with the last phrase in air quotes.
Dr. Nicole McNichols went on to tell her 24k followers: “This is because pleasure and pain are connected at a neurological level.
“And what makes a sensation feel pleasurable versus painful often just comes down to the thoughts and expectations you assign to the feeling.”
She then went on to give some examples of some painful experiences, which could be considered a turn-on for some.
She said: “For example, an object digging into your back might feel kind of painful and uncomfortable.
“But what if it’s the hands of your lover giving you an intimate massage? That might feel amazing.”
The sexpert continued to draw on other scenarios that might not be for everyone – but some would love due to the fine line between pleasure and pain.
She continued: “Here’s some other types of ‘good pain’.
“A partner pulling your hair, maybe a partner spanking you, or maybe some temperature play.”
Once explaining the reasons behind some people’s sexual appetite, Dr. Nicole McNichols encouraged others to be open about what they wanted.
She addressed her social media followers, as she said: “So if incorporating pain into your life is something you think you might enjoy, communicate that to your partner.
“And don’t feel ashamed.”
She also had another piece of advice up her sleeve, as she concluded that it’s important to keep a clear distinction in your mind.
She rounded off the video by saying: “And remember that inflicting painful sensations is a whole different thing than actually causing physical harm.
“But, ultimately, the pain pleasure connection is fundamentally human.”
