DEAR DEIDRE: I WISH I’d stood up to the school bullies and now could do the same with the horrid people where I work.
I’m a man of 40 and you’d think I’d be be able to deal with this but the cruel words stay with me.
I’ve always been a loner and find it hard to make friends.
I used to get called “retarded” at school because it takes me a while to process things.
I work in a factory now and things are much the same.
I don’t have friends and I stutter when I talk to people.
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I replay everything when I get into bed but, in my mind, imagine standing up for myself – and there being a different outcome.
How can I stop these issues ruining my life?
DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry you’ve had to put up with this.
Bullying can be so far-reaching, it’s natural you think back to unhappy times.
Just like when you replay the scenarios at home, it would help in real life if you start being more assertive.
My support pack called Are You Being Bullied will help and you can also find support for your speech through Stamma (stamma.org, 0808 802 0002 or use webchat or email).